Life Awakening

AWAKEN FROM LIFE is about discovering who you are and about defining your true self so you can seize the helm of your life! This book is changing lives. Let it change yours!

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Story of Hope Love Destiny

If you like inspirational memoirs about the power of hope, or just want to read a candid expose of my previously misaligned life, FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny is the book for you!! It’s a page turner!!

Available in Paperback or as an E-Book

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This memoir written by a woman author tells a compelling, impactful true life story about hope and love, and how she found her destiny. An excellent book for women!

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Inspiring Authors Message

Author, Randi G. Fine 

Living Life to the Fullest

Inspirational Author’s Message

The most difficult people in our lives end up being our greatest teachers.   The hurdles they place before us and the challenges they present to us are only lessons that we must learn for our greater good.   Think of the oyster…without the irritating grain of sand there would be no pearl. ~ Randi G. Fine

We all experience times of joy and times of suffering as we move through our lives. Life is a breeze during the happy times; we get to sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. But we must ask ourselves how good joy would feel if we had no adversity to contrast it? The phrase, “nobody said life was easy,” was coined with good reason. The truth is, life is hard work…but the beauty of life is that it has many facets.  We are constantly challenged to learn and grow.  And as we rise to those challenges we become stronger, wiser and better human beings. The universe holds all the answers we will ever need. It’s all there for the taking if we watch, listen, and trust our intuition. I invite you to follow me on my journey as I explore the many paths to happiness, and the many avenues that will lead us to living life to the fullest. I wish you serenity and joy in your life. ~ Randi

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Crystalline Indigo Star Children New Breed of Humanity

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children of nowThe Children of Now

Article Written by Meg Blackburn Losey, Msc.D., Ph.D. for Creations Magazine

Listen to Dr. Meg’s Interview with Randi Fine on A Fine Time for Healing February 17, 2015

New Children arriving around the world represent a huge evolutionary movement; a phenomenon affecting communication patterns at a cellular level. Crystalline and Indigo children, Star Kids and other transitional children have brains that function differently; they have an innate ability to “tap in” to different levels of subtle energies. They can experience precognition and/or free their consciousness to explore other times, places and realities beyond the third dimension.

Often, because of certain stimuli or changes within the relationships of energetic functioning, a child of the new evolution may look different or act overtly dysfunctional. Some of the children experience apparent disabilities and many are profoundly physically disabled, while exhibiting a spiritual clarity that demonstrates a mastery and wisdom beyond that of most adults. Those who appear to be profoundly affected often do not or cannot speak, but communicate telepathically. Some children do not behave “normally” and others seem “spaced out”. This is because their brain processes are far beyond ours.

One reason for this is the “fast track” nature of evolution at this time. Changing or disharmonic energies sometimes become resident within the brain waves and throughout the children’s energy fields. Energy relationships within the brain and the overall energy system experience static, much like the interference on a radio. Energy patterns in their brains often function in circular patterns, rather than linear, and affect the areas of intelligence accessed by the child. In some children, the energy fields within the brain unify, creating a field of energy that accesses parts of the brain that most people do not normally use. Their consciousness becomes more aware of alternate realities and multidimensional worlds and eventually free of limitations altogether.

The new children or Children of Now easily switch from one reality to another, and remain consciously aware of all realities simultaneously. They are not only aware, but can see, talk and interact with other beings in other planes of reality. By projecting their consciousness out into the universal construct, the Children of Now become bringers of wisdom to our world from far beyond.

Because of these energy changes, some new children display physical dysfunction, general brilliance or giftedness in a particular subject. An electroencephalogram (EEG) rarely picks up this type of brain activity and the medical field does not factor in electromagnetic relationships within and around the bodies, nor do they consider that every human being is layer after layer of subtle energy forms and fields. Since the multidimensional aspects of these children, which are interacting with each other all the time, are ignored, many children with these anomalies have normal test results and are deemed either medical mysteries or misdiagnosed with conditions such as Autism or Attention Deficit Disorder and hyperactivity.

The deficits in these particular children are not in attention, cognitive ability, or social skills; they are societal. Society lacks awareness of this escalating evolution of humanity—it is deficient in attention to these children and has underprovided educational environments or familial support systems. By turning a deaf ear to what the children are really saying, our society is missing their message and losing what might otherwise create a mighty and positive change in the world.

meg blackburn losey1Meg Blackburn Losey, Msc.D., Ph.D, is the author of Children of Now, Crystalline Children, Indigo Children, Star Kids, Angels on Earth and the Phenomenon of Transitional Children (New Page Books Dec. 2006). She is a channeler, psychic, and mystic and guests regularly on national and international media outlets. She hosts the Dr. Meg Show: Conscious Talk for Greater Reality and maintains a website at

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Randi Fine Speaking at Ft Lauderdale Venue May 18th

dynamic_aging_forum_flyerI’d love to meet you, so if you are in the Ft. Lauderdale/South Florida area and would like to hear me speak on Monday, May 18th at 12 p.m., call 954-828-4610 and reserve your free lunch. There is no charge to attend. Hope to see you there!

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Dealing With the Curve Balls of Life

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life1When Life Throws You a Curve Ball

Embracing Unpredictability

Daily OM Post Written by Madisyn Taylor

When the unexpected happens, you always have your inner core strength which cannot be taken from you.

In life, we are always setting goals for ourselves and working to make them happen. This gives us focus and ensures that we use our time and energy efficiently and effectively. It also provides us with a sense of purpose and direction. We know where we are going and what we want to do. But quite often, due to forces outside our control, things do not go as we had planned—the flat tire on the way to the wedding, the unforeseen flu virus—and we have to adjust to a postponement or create a whole new set of circumstances. Even positive turns of fortune — an unexpected influx of cash or falling in love — require us to be flexible and to reconsider our plans and priorities, sometimes in the blink of an eye. This is what happens when life throws you a curve ball.

The ability to accept what is happening and let go of your original expectations is key when dealing with these unexpected turns of fate. We have a tendency to get stuck in our heads, clinging to an idea of how we think life should go, and we can have a hard time accepting anything that doesn’t comply with that idea. The fact is that life is unpredictable. The trip you thought was for business — and when the deal fell through, you got depressed — actually landed you at the airport two days earlier than planned so you could meet the love of your life. Your car breaks down, and you are late for an appointment. While it’s true that you never arrive at that important meeting, you end up spending a few relaxing hours with people you would never have met otherwise.

In order to keep us awake to opportunity and to teach us equanimity, the universe throws us the occasional curve ball. Remember that curve balls are not only life’s way of keeping us awake, which is a gift in and of itself; they are also often life’s way of bringing us wonderful surprises. Next time a curve ball comes your way, take a deep breath, say thank you, and open your mind to a new opportunity.

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From Mother to Her Children on Mother’s Day

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On this Mother’s Day 2015, as always, I feel blessed to be the mother of two amazing adult children, a daughter and a son. Since the moment I knew that each child was growing inside my body, I have been in awe of the precious gift of motherhood. I feel honored that my children chose me and trusted me, out of all the women on this Earth, to be their mother; to be the caretaker of their souls while they’re here, to nurture them, to love them, to teach them, to inspire them, to shelter them, to laugh with them and cry with them, to be a constant source of strength and reliability for them.

As I do every year on Mother’s Day, I will look forward to reading the cards of love and appreciation they both send me; cards with the most beautiful, heartfelt hand-written sentiments; words that will bring tears to my eyes and swell my heart with pride, and I will thank God with every fiber of my being for the awesome miracle bestowed upon my life; my most precious gifts – my daughter and son.

Wishing All the Beautiful, Devoted, Loving Mothers of the World a very Happy Mother’s Day.

With Love,


I did not write the following poem, Being Your Mother, but I found it, love it, and want to share it with you.

“Being Your Mother”

Written by Barbara Cage

Being your Mother
means that I have had the opportunity
to experience loving someone
more than I love myself.
I have learned what it’s like
to experience joy and pain
your accomplishments touch me
and thrill me like no one else’s can.

It has brought me
a few tears and heartaches at times,
but it has taught me hope and patience.
It has shown me the depth,
strength, and power of love.

Being your mother
hasn’t always been easy,
and I’m sure
I’ve said or done things that have hurt or confused you.
But no one has ever made me as satisfied
as you do just by being happy.
No one has made me as proud as you do just by living up to your responsibilities.

No one’s smile
has ever warmed my heart
like yours does;
no one’s laughter
fills my heart with delight
as quickly as yours can.

No one’s hugs feel as sweet,
and no one’s dreams
mean as much to me as yours do.

No other memories of bad times have miraculously
turned into important lessons or humorous stories;
the good times have become precious treasures
to relive again and again.

You are a part of me,
and no matter what happened in the past
or what the future holds,
you are someone
I will always accept,
forgive, appreciate, adore,
and love unconditionally.

Being your mother
means that I’ve been given
one of life’s greatest gifts: you.

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Mother’s Day and Your Narcissist Mom

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mothers day cardMother’s Day and Your Narcissist Mom

Written by Anna Valerious on her Blog Narcissists Suck

Holidays and narcissists…ripe opportunities for them to grand stand, hold you hostage due to “custom”, and generally make your life completely miserable. For those of us with malignantly narcissist mothers I am convinced Mother’s Day is the worst holiday of the year.

Narcissist mothers have a death grip on the day. They cling to the expectations of recognition, praise, gifts and adulation with tenacious zeal. This is the day you have to “honor” her. A whole day set aside by the culture itself which means if you don’t please your mother on this Day of all days you risk the disapproval of society itself, in addition to your petulant, selfish and bratty mother’s persecutions. She makes full use of the pressure of society to conform you to ritual.

Pleasing her on this day is the trickiest of endeavors. Land mines are set for your feet. One miss step and the whole day blows up in your face…and you will be tortured for your failure for months to come. Mother’s Day is coming and you are waking up in a cold sweat as to how to do enough to please your bitch of a mother while all you want to do is run to another continent so you don’t have to face the obligations this day represents.

Can we stop right here? Mother’s Day was not a day to “celebrate” abusive, selfish and evil mothers. It is a day set aside to honor truly good mothers. If your mother is the kind that inspires dread of Mother’s day then can you just stop for a minute and realize she deserves no such honor? When you “honor” such a mother as yours it really cheapens the meaning of the day, wouldn’t you say? You’re an adult now. You can make decisions without asking for mommy’s approval. You can do things she positively hates and there is nothing she can really do about it. If she misbehaves because you give her what she deserves then punish her. Punishment by banishment. That is what she deserves.

The only way to get free of the tyranny of your narcissistic mother is to first free yourself of the expectations of society. You have to be willing to endure a disapproving look or statement here or there from people who don’t know anything about your life with an abusive mother. You can ease this process by keeping your relationship with your mother mostly to yourself. Don’t confide in people who haven’t already shown that they would be able to “get” what your narcissist mother is like. You’ll have to put up with a lot less disapproval if you mostly keep your mouth shut.

The next step, after you’ve freed yourself to go against societal convention, is to now act in accordance with how you feel about her. Give her what she deserves on this day. That means different things to different persons and situations. If you don’t break out into a sweat in the card section of Hallmark, then by all means, send her a card. If you can’t endure the thought of Mother’s Day because of what she turns it into no matter what you do…then what she deserves is nothing.

Something I hate about narcissist mothers and this High Holy Day for Mothers is how they never, ever consider that their daughters are now mothers too. I think Mother’s Day should be more about those mothers who are still in the mode of day-to-day mothering than those whose birds have all flitted from the nest. Not that older mothers aren’t deserving of recognition. Let me try to explain. For example. When my daughter is out on her own and is a mother herself I will not be sitting around waiting for her to dump all her responsibilities at home in order to take me out to dinner, go shopping, or spend money she may not have on me. Since I will have lots of time because I’m no longer raising children, I will pick up the phone and wish her a happy Mother’s Day. I will send her a gift, or flowers, or take her out to dinner if geography allows. I will honor someone who is currently mothering her children and not lay piles of expectations for a young mother to accommodate my ego like I’ve earned some kind of Queen status, like stroking my ego should supersede her life with her own children and husband.

I don’t have an mother ego to stroke. A mother’s job is to raise her children so they turn into competent and independent adults. If I succeeded at that, then I was only doing what the job required. I shouldn’t expect a monument to be built in my name because I did my job. Which is why, when grown children honor a good mother it is truly a gift to her. Not a requirement like taxes. Their kindnesses on this day are not my due. They are a gift. To receive those kindnesses in any other way is to take away the beauty of your children trying to give you something. It spoils and tarnishes the meaning of the gift and turns it into obligation. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want obligation to be the motivation for my daughter doing something on my behalf. I want to know she did it of her own free will because she loves me. That is the highest gift. Something a narcissist is incapable of appreciating.

The difference between a good mother’s attitude and a narcissist mother’s attitude about her children is this: a good mother realizes she bears the responsibility of bringing a life into the world and must do everything she can to support and add to that life, not subtract from it. The N (NPD) mother sees her children as a perpetual resource to support her life. They are there to serve her. To her dying day. A N (NPD) mother’s children are never allowed to actually own their lives. She always holds the deed to their lives and forces them to pay rent on that deed all their miserable lives. A good mother doesn’t subtract from her children’s lives; she makes sure her actions add quality and happiness to her children’s lives. There is no point when a good mother feels entitled to subtract from their lives. She forever bears the responsibility that she brought them into this world therefore she never feels like she can mooch off of a life that didn’t get a choice for being born. A N mother turns motherhood from a responsibility to a God-like position. I brought you into this world, so you owe me. She, as your Creator God, exacts worship and obeisance forever and ever, amen. Completely upside down thinking which springs from their utterly selfish world view.

Save Mother’s Day for the good mothers out there. Don’t cheapen the day by paying homage to a black caricature of motherhood. Be honest with yourself and live honestly with others.

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Adult NPD Survivors Defenseless Against Ignorant Judgment

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NPD abuseAdult NPD Survivors Further Assaulted By Ignoramuses

Written by Randi G. Fine

When people hear that I have chosen to have no contact with my highly toxic, aged mother and father they always tell me how sorry they feel for my parents. I can only assume that in me they see a happy, well-adjusted adult woman and must decide that I have chosen to afflict some sort of maliciously intended punishment on my poor defenseless parents. They cannot possibly understand how violated I feel hearing them defend the very people who nearly destroyed my life; people who would continue to wreak havoc in it if I chose to allow it.

The judgment handed down by the clearly ignorant strikes a raw nerve and immediately puts me on the defensive. Cases of appalling abusive actions from my supposedly old, frail, innocent parents, some old some new, come spewing out of my mouth one after another in an attempt to justify my position. My breath is wasted. My stance is never validated. I always end up looking cold-blooded and hard-hearted when in truth I am anything but.

I am a strong, confident woman. I have learned to love myself despite all I have been through. Perhaps it is that air of confidence that causes some to side against me. It must be, because everything I stand for in my life demonstrates my compassionate, loving nature, yet all of that seemingly goes right out the window in the eyes of people who do not understand Narcissistic Personality Disorder abuse.

I know that I am not alone in this experience. Due to the covert nature of narcissistic abuse it is one of the perpetual tragedies many survivors of NPD parents endure. The victim is often seen as the perpetrator and the perpetrator seen as the victim. Even when we find the courage to stop the abuse we can never redeem ourselves in the minds of the judgmental ignoramus, professional or otherwise.

As NPD abuse survivors our healing must come entirely from our own courageous resolve. The Narcissistic Personality Disorder parent will never validate our feelings, verify our memories, or allow us our pain. Our friends, co-workers and acquaintances who cannot possibly understand what we go through often say the wrong thing, making us feel even worse. The only possibility of support is an alliance with siblings who have shared our experiences and have likewise abandoned their denial.

I am very fortunate. It took a few years but my sisters both embraced the truth. We are able to emotionally support each other and have formed an ironclad alliance against our toxic parents, but that is uncommon. More often than not, siblings side with parents who are adept at exploiting their victimization and rallying sympathizers around them, alienating their recovering brother or sister even further.

NPD survivors must have a solid support system to keep them from self-destructing. Rationality does not exist in dealings with those who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Rational minds cannot make sense of NPD irrational behavior, though that does not stop us from trying to rationalize the confusion we experience. It is that effort that makes us feel as if we are the crazy ones.

It takes a great deal of validation to convince us that we are not crazy. That is why I strongly recommend survivors work with a professional therapist, psychologist or counselor who is highly skilled in working with Narcissistic Personality Disorder abuse until they feel strong and confident enough to stand on their own—however long that takes. That is the formula for success in completely overcoming the pain—for confidently moving forward in our lives.

There will always be issues throughout our lives that challenge us as NPD abuse survivors. Though I counsel other survivors and extensively write, speak and am highly knowledgeable about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I am not immune to its ugly assaults. However, as a result of the work I have done I am confidant and skilled enough to get through them. The more healing work we do, the stronger we get and the easier those challenges are to deal with.

You have survived one of the most insidious forms of child abuse. Though often invisible, the abuse was real, your pain is real. But never choose to be a victim of your past. Reclaim your power. Start today.

If you need a skilled professional to support you and help you work through your NPD abuse issues, I am always available.

Read more articles on Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

Relationship Between Childhood Narcissistic Abuse and Adult Overachieving    Breaking Free from Your Narcissistic Personality Disorder Parent     Narcissistic Pride Trumps Personal Health and Safety   Are You Suffering From Narcissistic Abuse   Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents Learn to be People Pleasers    Narcissist Abuse Picture Quote   Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents   Forgive or Not Forgive Narcissistic Abuser   Narcissistic Mothers Golden Child   Narcissistic Personality Disorder Defined   Narcissistic Personality Disorder The Series   Narcissistic Personality Disorder Uncovered   Thirty Healing Affirmations Help Daughters’ Toxic Mother Challenges   Codependent Narcissist Relationship Dance   Sociopathic Personality Lacks Empathy   The Narcissistic Family Portrait Close Encounters of the Worst Kind   Narcissistic Spouses Discard and Abandon

Listen to Podcast Shows on Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

Whether to Forgive or Not Forgive the Narcissist Abuser   Narcissistic Personality Disorder: What Is It?   Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Parent/Child Abuse   Narcissistic Personality Disorder: The Family PortraitNarcissistic Personality Disorder: Narcissistic Mothers   Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Mothers and Daughters    Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Answering Your Questions
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Emotional Healing Workshop

workshop flyerRandi Fine will be launching a brand new workshop in June 2015 called:

Embrace the Life You Deserve

Releasing the Burdens of a Past You Cannot Change

A Transformational Workshop

This workshop is a three to four hour comprehensive emotional healing program for letting go of the past that incorporates non-denominational prayers and meditations. Crystals and Essential Oils are used in the room to enhance the experience.

Through a variety of exercises and activities, this workshop addresses every aspect of letting go of the past and emotional healing; the child within, identifying emotions, how to face painful feelings, conquering the victim mentality, regret and guilt, forgiving ourselves, forgiving others, acceptance, and letting go and moving on.

The emotional healing does not end when the workshop does. Each participant receives a binder filled with 50 pages of supportive, reinforcing exercises and resources to help them let go of their past and continue their emotional healing journey, in and on their own time.

Please contact Randi Fine at if you would like to know more or are interested in having Randi Fine facilitate this workshop for your group.

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Releasing Unexpressed Emotions

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Emotional Healing

Written by Randi G. Fine

Unexpressed emotion will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways. ~Sigmund Freud~

Most of the feelings that interfere with our lives today, our negative emotional responses, have little to do with what is occurring in the present. They stem from painful childhood memories that lie buried deep inside of us, ones that have yet to be faced and dealt with.
When these memories are subconsciously triggered, all rationality goes out the window. We become hypersensitive, rigid, irrational, and insecure.triggers We become out of control, emotional wrecks.

We may think we know why we are reacting the way we are, though we seldom do. We may think we are reacting to something that was said or done in the present, but we are not. We are reacting to our pain from the past.

Triggers bring the pain of our past to the surface for a very specific reason. Our bodies do not want the toxic feelings imprisoned in them anymore. They use every opportunity to plead with us, “Examine your pain, feel it, and then please set it free. We don’t want to hurt anymore.”

That is not easily accomplished. It may be difficult for us to find words for the emotional reactions that go on inside of us and come out of us. We know that we feel upset, unbalanced, uncomfortable, or even cut off from our emotions, but we don’t know why.

That lack of understanding is a result of having been conditioned to bury our most uncomfortable feelings – to remain calm and to show our happy face to the world. We have been told that it is not acceptable to express our emotions – that it is a sign of weakness.
Our emotions embarrass us. We fear that others will judge or reject us for displaying them, and we certainly don’t want to hurt or upset anyone while doing so.

As a result, many of us have been denying our emotional pain for a very long time. We have become accustomed to unconsciously doing that out of habit so that we can function in our day to day lives. The problem with doing that is that living is about much more than just functioning. It’s the difference between existing and truly living.

yin yangThe only requirement for existing in the physical world is that we breathe air. Truly living is about being awake and present in our lives. It is about experiencing all there is to experience. It’s about loving, imagining, and dreaming. It’s about developing life enhancing relationships, seizing opportunities, finding our passions, and growing. Truly living is also about accepting and flowing with the duality of life; joy and sorrow, excitement and disappointment, contentment and heartache, wellness and dis-ease, hopefulness and hopelessness.

Emotion is a natural response to living. Suppressing or repressing emotions is not. Our ability to love and be loved is based on our ability to feel and express our emotions.
Our emotions are indicators of what is going on inside of us. When we allow ourselves to feel them in the moment when they occur, as children do before they are taught that it is wrong to do so, our feelings will be very temporary. They will come and go in a natural flow. It is the suppression and repression of them that causes our pain to linger.

When we do not release them, emotions that are healthy become emotions that are physically and mentally toxic. Even if your conscious mind has dissociated from the painful memory that triggers the emotion, your body remembers it. Toxic emotions manifest outward in many ways.

Toxic emotions steal our self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-love. They cause us to act out in ways that are undesirable. Addictions, depression, or co-dependency may result. Problematic overachieving and underachieving are also symptoms of toxic emotions.

Living in a body where so much emotion has been suppressed can be quite uncomfortable. Even if we try to fool ourselves by thinking we have overcome these memories by ignoring them or pushing them to the side, they will continue to fester deep within us, gnawing at us from the inside out.

Benign, but nagging symptoms such as insomnia, headaches, stomach problems, and fatigue are common results. But the stress these imprisoned emotions put on our bodies can cause chronic or deadly illness as well. Stress weakens our immune system making us prone to all sorts of devastating illnesses and auto-immune disorders.

Even if our suppressed emotions have not yet shown up on the surface, they still limit us by impeding our relationships, stealing our joy, stealing our vitality, robbing us of our inner peace and robbing us of our personal power. time bombAnd like a ticking time bomb, one day they will just explode and wreak havoc in our lives.

Feelings can be very painful, especially when we have never allowed ourselves to fully experience them. But we must learn to feel them. Once we allow that to happen, we discover that it is not our feelings that hurt us, it is the denying of them that does.

Awareness is the first step in excavating buried emotions. We become aware of these emotions by paying attention to our triggers. Our hot buttons, the things that make us strongly react, are indications of where to start digging. Once identified, we must allow them to surface. And once they surface we must allow ourselves to feel them.

Looking at ourselves in ways that we are unaccustomed to is not an easy thing to do. But it is the key to emotional freedom.

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Blaming Others

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Burdensome Feelings

A Daily OM Written by Madisyn Taylor Daily

We cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready.

As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same question arises. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don’t truly feel responsible for. We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behavior. Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner’s bad behavior.

Perhaps the problem lies with the activity of blaming. Whether we blame others or blame ourselves, there is something aggressive and unkind about it. It sets up a situation in which it becomes difficult to move forward under the burdensome feelings of shame and guilt that arise. It also puts the resolution of our pain in the hands of someone other than us. Ultimately, we cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready. In the meantime, if we want to move forward with our lives instead of waiting around for something that may or may not happen, we begin to see the wisdom of taking the situation into our own hands.

We do this by forgiving our parents, even if they have not asked for our forgiveness, so that we can be free. We end the abusive relationship with our partner, who may never admit to any wrongdoing, because we are willing to take responsibility for how we are treated. In short, we love ourselves as we want to be loved and create the life we know we deserve. We leave the resolution of the wrongs committed against us in the hands of the universe, releasing ourselves to live a life free of blame.

Daily OM

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Empath Society

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Please join us on the Facebook page, Empath Society.

I created Empath Society on Facebook as place for Empaths and Highly Sensitive People to come together, share experiences, form friendships with like-minded individuals, and develop a sense of community. There you will find great resources, articles, meditations and tips for dealing with your unique empathic gift!

Stop by our Facebook page, say hello, and like us! Then join in the dialogue and help support others just like you!

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