Life Awakening

AWAKEN FROM LIFE is about discovering who you are and about defining your true self so you can seize the helm of your life! This book is changing lives. Let it change yours!

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Story of Hope Love Destiny

If you like inspirational memoirs about the power of hope, or just want to read a candid expose of my previously misaligned life, FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny is the book for you!! It’s a page turner!!

Available in Paperback or as an E-Book

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This memoir written by a woman author tells a compelling, impactful true life story about hope and love, and how she found her destiny. An excellent book for women!

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Inspiring Authors Message

Author, Randi G. Fine 

Living Life to the Fullest

Inspirational Author’s Message

The most difficult people in our lives end up being our greatest teachers.   The hurdles they place before us and the challenges they present to us are only lessons that we must learn for our greater good.   Think of the oyster…without the irritating grain of sand there would be no pearl. ~ Randi G. Fine

We all experience times of joy and times of suffering as we move through our lives. Life is a breeze during the happy times; we get to sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. But we must ask ourselves how good joy would feel if we had no adversity to contrast it? The phrase, “nobody said life was easy,” was coined with good reason. The truth is, life is hard work…but the beauty of life is that it has many facets.  We are constantly challenged to learn and grow.  And as we rise to those challenges we become stronger, wiser and better human beings. The universe holds all the answers we will ever need. It’s all there for the taking if we watch, listen, and trust our intuition. I invite you to follow me on my journey as I explore the many paths to happiness, and the many avenues that will lead us to living life to the fullest. I wish you serenity and joy in your life. ~ Randi

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Emotional Healing Workshop

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Embrace the Life You Deserve

Releasing the Burdens of a Past You Cannot Change

A Transformational Workshop

This workshop is a three to four hour comprehensive emotional healing program for letting go of the past that incorporates non-denominational prayers and meditations. Crystals and Essential Oils are used in the room to enhance the experience.

Through a variety of exercises and activities, this workshop addresses every aspect of letting go of the past and emotional healing; the child within, identifying emotions, how to face painful feelings, conquering the victim mentality, regret and guilt, forgiving ourselves, forgiving others, acceptance, and letting go and moving on.

The emotional healing does not end when the workshop does. Each participant receives a binder filled with 50 pages of supportive, reinforcing exercises and resources to help them let go of their past and continue their emotional healing journey, in and on their own time.

Please contact Randi Fine at if you would like to know more or are interested in having Randi Fine facilitate this workshop for your group.

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Releasing Unexpressed Emotions

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Emotional Healing

Written by Randi G. Fine

Unexpressed emotion will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways. ~Sigmund Freud~

Most of the feelings that interfere with our lives today, our negative emotional responses, have little to do with what is occurring in the present. They stem from painful childhood memories that lie buried deep inside of us, ones that have yet to be faced and dealt with.
When these memories are subconsciously triggered, all rationality goes out the window. We become hypersensitive, rigid, irrational, and insecure.triggers We become out of control, emotional wrecks.

We may think we know why we are reacting the way we are, though we seldom do. We may think we are reacting to something that was said or done in the present, but we are not. We are reacting to our pain from the past.

Triggers bring the pain of our past to the surface for a very specific reason. Our bodies do not want the toxic feelings imprisoned in them anymore. They use every opportunity to plead with us, “Examine your pain, feel it, and then please set it free. We don’t want to hurt anymore.”

That is not easily accomplished. It may be difficult for us to find words for the emotional reactions that go on inside of us and come out of us. We know that we feel upset, unbalanced, uncomfortable, or even cut off from our emotions, but we don’t know why.

That lack of understanding is a result of having been conditioned to bury our most uncomfortable feelings – to remain calm and to show our happy face to the world. We have been told that it is not acceptable to express our emotions – that it is a sign of weakness.
Our emotions embarrass us. We fear that others will judge or reject us for displaying them, and we certainly don’t want to hurt or upset anyone while doing so.

As a result, many of us have been denying our emotional pain for a very long time. We have become accustomed to unconsciously doing that out of habit so that we can function in our day to day lives. The problem with doing that is that living is about much more than just functioning. It’s the difference between existing and truly living.

yin yangThe only requirement for existing in the physical world is that we breathe air. Truly living is about being awake and present in our lives. It is about experiencing all there is to experience. It’s about loving, imagining, and dreaming. It’s about developing life enhancing relationships, seizing opportunities, finding our passions, and growing. Truly living is also about accepting and flowing with the duality of life; joy and sorrow, excitement and disappointment, contentment and heartache, wellness and dis-ease, hopefulness and hopelessness.

Emotion is a natural response to living. Suppressing or repressing emotions is not. Our ability to love and be loved is based on our ability to feel and express our emotions.
Our emotions are indicators of what is going on inside of us. When we allow ourselves to feel them in the moment when they occur, as children do before they are taught that it is wrong to do so, our feelings will be very temporary. They will come and go in a natural flow. It is the suppression and repression of them that causes our pain to linger.

When we do not release them, emotions that are healthy become emotions that are physically and mentally toxic. Even if your conscious mind has dissociated from the painful memory that triggers the emotion, your body remembers it. Toxic emotions manifest outward in many ways.

Toxic emotions steal our self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-love. They cause us to act out in ways that are undesirable. Addictions, depression, or co-dependency may result. Problematic overachieving and underachieving are also symptoms of toxic emotions.

Living in a body where so much emotion has been suppressed can be quite uncomfortable. Even if we try to fool ourselves by thinking we have overcome these memories by ignoring them or pushing them to the side, they will continue to fester deep within us, gnawing at us from the inside out.

Benign, but nagging symptoms such as insomnia, headaches, stomach problems, and fatigue are common results. But the stress these imprisoned emotions put on our bodies can cause chronic or deadly illness as well. Stress weakens our immune system making us prone to all sorts of devastating illnesses and auto-immune disorders.

Even if our suppressed emotions have not yet shown up on the surface, they still limit us by impeding our relationships, stealing our joy, stealing our vitality, robbing us of our inner peace and robbing us of our personal power. time bombAnd like a ticking time bomb, one day they will just explode and wreak havoc in our lives.

Feelings can be very painful, especially when we have never allowed ourselves to fully experience them. But we must learn to feel them. Once we allow that to happen, we discover that it is not our feelings that hurt us, it is the denying of them that does.

Awareness is the first step in excavating buried emotions. We become aware of these emotions by paying attention to our triggers. Our hot buttons, the things that make us strongly react, are indications of where to start digging. Once identified, we must allow them to surface. And once they surface we must allow ourselves to feel them.

Looking at ourselves in ways that we are unaccustomed to is not an easy thing to do. But it is the key to emotional freedom.

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Blaming Others

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Burdensome Feelings

A Daily OM Written by Madisyn Taylor Daily

We cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready.

As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same question arises. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don’t truly feel responsible for. We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behavior. Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner’s bad behavior.

Perhaps the problem lies with the activity of blaming. Whether we blame others or blame ourselves, there is something aggressive and unkind about it. It sets up a situation in which it becomes difficult to move forward under the burdensome feelings of shame and guilt that arise. It also puts the resolution of our pain in the hands of someone other than us. Ultimately, we cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready. In the meantime, if we want to move forward with our lives instead of waiting around for something that may or may not happen, we begin to see the wisdom of taking the situation into our own hands.

We do this by forgiving our parents, even if they have not asked for our forgiveness, so that we can be free. We end the abusive relationship with our partner, who may never admit to any wrongdoing, because we are willing to take responsibility for how we are treated. In short, we love ourselves as we want to be loved and create the life we know we deserve. We leave the resolution of the wrongs committed against us in the hands of the universe, releasing ourselves to live a life free of blame.

Daily OM

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Empath Society

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Please join us on the Facebook page, Empath Society.

I created Empath Society on Facebook as place for Empaths and Highly Sensitive People to come together, share experiences, form friendships with like-minded individuals, and develop a sense of community. There you will find great resources, articles, meditations and tips for dealing with your unique empathic gift!

Stop by our Facebook page, say hello, and like us! Then join in the dialogue and help support others just like you!

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Children a Poetry Essay by Khalil Gibran

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An excerpt from “The Prophet” written by Khalil Gibran

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, “Speak to us of Children.”
And he said:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

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Relationship Between Childhood Narcissistic Abuse and Adult Overachieving

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OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAChronic Overachieving and Narcissistic Personality Disorder Abuse

Written by Randi G. Fine

Undernurtured children often become overgivers and overachievers in adulthood. While the gifts they  give to everyone else are enormous, true joy can only happen when they finally give themselves unconditional love for who they are, not just for what they do. ~Doe Zantamata~

Are you an adult survivor of NPD abuse who is a chronic overachiever? Are you never satisfied with your accomplishments or fear failure? Do you suffer from the “Nothing I Do is Ever Good Enough” syndrome?

Adults who were raised by a parent or parents with Narcissistic Personality Disorder suffer a great deal of collateral damage. They are left with open emotional wounds that impact many areas of their lives; wounds that will not heal until they understand what happened to them in their childhoods. Many of the wounds they have carried with them since childhood stem from skewed internal belief systems that remain deeply ingrained in them.

All NPD abuse survivors do not suffer in exactly the same way, though because of the commonalities in the way Narcissists abuse and the convoluted messages they convey to their children, survivors are similarly impacted.

Many ACONS’s (Adult Children of Narcissists) are left with a chronically unfulfilled need for external approval and validation, irrespective to the level of competency or success they achieve in their personal and/or professional lives. There is an underlying belief that they must look, act or perform certain ways to get approval, acceptance and love from others. This approval seeking pattern creates a great deal of stress in their lives. They sacrifice their own happiness and well-being at the expense of it.

Children are highly impressionable. Growing up under the control of an NPD parent, children become conditioned to put their own needs aside and wait to see what the parent expects of them. These expectations are never predictable – the children jump through ever changing hoops in an effort to keep their parents happy and to get a crumb of “love” or acknowledgment. They live in an environment where the feelings of the parent, the person they rely on to take care of them, take priority over their own feelings. In order to fulfill the child’s basic need to thrive – to be loved and cared for – and their need to live in a peaceful, harmonious environment, they must learn to play the game the way the parent wants it played.

Having always based their feelings on the feelings of the NPD parent, these children grow up not knowing what their own feelings are. Having always gauged their successes and failures on the approval or disapproval of the NPD parent, they have no inner guidance system. Having been conditioned to keep the peace through “pleasing” or “playing it safe,” they fear disapproval and failure. All considered it is understandable why as adults they do not trust their own judgment, why they rely on external validation, and why they never feel “good enough.”

Karyl McBride Ph.D. said in her article Do You Not Feel Good Enough, “Just because a child grows up and may begin to see the dysfunction in their family of origin, it does not mean that the internalized message is cleared away. We parent ourselves in the same manner we were parented. So the negative message of “I couldn’t fix it, so I am not good enough,” remains strong. The parent does not have to say these words directly to the child, the child is internalizing it as he or she is developing. ‘I will clean the whole house tonight and then my parents won’t fight.’ But, they do fight and they don’t even notice. ‘It didn’t work.’ ‘I am not good enough, or powerful enough, or worthy.”

Understanding where the negative self-talk comes from is the first step toward changing your life. Vanessa, author of the article How To Stop Seeking Approval From Others & Get On With Your Life!, suggests the following ways to change approval seeking patterns:

  • Get to know who YOU are. Dive into your being by embarking on a quest to know who you are by establishing your core values, getting clear on your basic needs and wants in life. By knowing these things about yourself you will have less fear from separating from the pack and following your bliss. You will also be able to distinguish if you are living by other people’s desires instead of your own.
  • Ask yourself, “Why are other people’s opinions of me so important?” “Why do I seek the approval of others?” When you can answer these questions you will have a much better idea of the attachment you have to these beliefs. It will become easier to let go of the fear associated to living by others opinions and judgments of you because you will get to the root of why it is there. This belief actually doesn’t have anything to do with anyone’s opinions or judgments, but from a fear that you will not be accepted or loved by others if what you do is unaligned with those around you. Acceptance and love first start with you, not with the outside world. If you are looking to be valued and validated by the outside world first, you will end up suffering immensely in life.
  • Play the, “what if,” game. “What if….I don’t do what my parents want me to do with my life??” “What if my choices and ideas about my life are different than those around me?” When you play out the worst case scenarios, it doesn’t seem so scary anymore to venture off on your own path and to start living out your own dreams and goals. Most of the time the worst case scenario doesn’t actually play out in the end, but if it does you’re already somewhat prepared for a possible outcome and how to handle it.
  • Let go of those who don’t support or accept you for who you are. Although this is probably one of the toughest and most challenging choices to make it can be the wisest and the healthiest. You are here to live an authentic life that is yours, not simply live to abide by and please others. Sometimes we have to release unsupportive and toxic relationships in order to get on with our lives.
  • Affirming that you do deserve to be happy and to have a life that is in purpose and full of passion and zest is key. This is YOUR life and no one else’s. Find ways to self-talk in a positive and loving manner to reprogram your mind chatter from that of fear and limitation to one of love and joy.
  • Remind yourself that no matter what choices or decisions you make or don’t make, no matter what your dreams and goals are there will always be differing points of view and opinions of them. The most important thing is how you feel about yourself and your choices. Do they feel good? Are your decisions congruent in mind-body and soul? Are you feeling fulfilled? Are you living a life that is full of joy and ease? Are you accepting and approving of yourself? Remember in the end this is YOUR life and no one else’s to live. Your path and journey may very well differentiate to what others think it should be and that’s O-K. Get on with your life and start living it!

I am available to talk about any life issues that are concerning you. Private, confidential counseling by telephone.

Read more articles on Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

Breaking Free from Your Narcissistic Personality Disorder Parent
Narcissistic Pride Trumps Personal Health and Safety
Are You Suffering From Narcissistic Abuse
Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents Learn to be People Pleasers 
Narcissist Abuse Picture Quote
Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents
Forgive or Not Forgive Narcissistic Abuser
Narcissistic Mothers Golden Child
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Defined
Narcissistic Personality Disorder The Series
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Uncovered
Thirty Healing Affirmations Help Daughters’ Toxic Mother Challenges
Codependent Narcissist Relationship Dance
Sociopathic Personality Lacks Empathy
The Narcissistic Family Portrait Close Encounters of the Worst Kind
Narcissistic Spouses Discard and Abandon

Listen to Podcast Shows on Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

Whether to Forgive or Not Forgive the Narcissist Abuser
Narcissistic Personality Disorder: What Is It?
Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Parent/Child Abuse
Narcissistic Personality Disorder: The Family Portrait
Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Narcissistic Mothers
Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Mothers and Daughters   
Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Answering Your Questions
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Valentines Day Message 2015

Valentine Quote 2015Happy Valentine’s Day!

With Love,



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Tribute to a Most Inspiring Woman

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Inspiring Hospice True Story

Written by Randi G. Fine

I have been a hospice volunteer, working with dying patients, for several years. I know – the thought of spending time with people who are dying sounds very depressing, and it may be for many. For me the desire to share time with those who are transitioning from the physical reality to the spiritual reality has burned deep within for many years. It is both a privilege and an honor for me to be with those who need companionship during this crucial time in the journey of their souls. I do not find it depressing at all – I find it highly inspiring and enriching.

Most of the patients I routinely visit with are elderly. While I have deep compassion for them and what they are going through, dying is a more natural progression in the lives of the elderly and somehow easier for me to accept. Still, the wisdom and positive attitudes exuded by these people is remarkable. Each one has left an indelible mark on me in some way.

Yesterday I lost a patient – a very dear, inspiring young woman I had grown to love who had just celebrated her twenty-eighth birthday in January. This young woman’s world had crashed in around her. Not only had she undergone surgeries and chemotherapy that were ineffective in eradicating the cancer she’d been diagnosed with, not only had she been rendered deaf and unable to walk due to a stroke she’d had after brain surgery, and not only had she been given no hope for recovery, her personal life was devastating.

She had been married for close to ten years to a man whom, because he couldn’t deal with her hopeless cancer prognosis, shut off emotionally and told her he no longer loved her. She had two little boys, ages 4 and 6, who were the lights of her life. They remained in Virginia with their father, a place she and her husband both resided before she got sick and had to be transferred to her mother’s house in Florida. In the four months she laid incapacitated in bed at her mother’s house, she never got to touch or hold those boys again. No amount of pleading or reasoning from her family, his family, or the hospice social worker could convince him to bring the boys to her. She Skyped with them, but never got to touch or hold them again. I’ll never understand how that could have happened. Her situation was beyond tragic.

You would think this young woman would be despondent and hopeless, yet she was anything but. She was loving, hopeful, and gracious. She poured love onto every person that entered her room. If you’d ask her how she was feeling (she could no longer hear but she could read lips), she’d always say, “I’m okay” in a very positive way. She never complained. The only way anyone knew she was suffering was by the grimacing of her face. She would never say she was in pain, even when it was a level 9 or 10.

She continued to look hopefully forward up until the moment she took her last breath, never accepting that she would not see any of her plans or dreams come to fruition, even though it was obvious that her body was rapidly succumbing to her cancer.

Each Wednesday when it was time for me to end my visit, I would blow her a kiss and she would blow one back to me. When I said goodbye this week, I blew her the usual kiss and she blew one back to me. But this week was somehow different. I told her I loved her for the very first time and she said she loved me too. We must have both known intuitively that it would be the last time we would see each other in the physical world.

My volunteer coordinator called me yesterday morning to tell me that she had passed that morning. I thought I would take it harder than I did, but it was easy for me to accept because I know she is no longer prisoner to her diseased, cancerous body and in a much better place – a place of love, a place of peace, and a place where she can always watch her sons. And while the cancer destroyed her body, it could never destroy the strength of her spirit and the eternal beauty of her soul. She is not dead – she remains very much alive.

I know I have been especially blessed with the opportunity to have known this beautiful, deeply inspiring woman. For that I am immensely grateful.

So, in case you are still wondering… that is why I do what I do. That is why I am a hospice volunteer.

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Choosing To Think Act Speak Feel More Consciously

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Written by authors Pia Smith Orleane and Cullen Baird Smith in their book, Remembering Who We Are: Laarkma’s Guidance on Healing the Human Condition (copyrighted material)

If we wish to make conscious choices, we must begin by turning our focus away from others’ behavior and towards our own. This requires a change of strategy in our interactions. We must reprogram ourselves to stop reacting to others and our environment and instead begin to choose conscious actions, regardless of what others are saying or doing. These conscious actions can be as simple as walking away or no-engagement in conflict, learning neither to defend ourselves nor attack others, or quieting ourselves to the degree that we are able to actually listen to the truth in our own hearts. As I (Cullen) always say, “You cannot be in a state of compassion if you are in a state of reaction. And you cannot be in a state of reaction if you are in a state of compassion.” A decision to hold our own peace and not to react to others enhances our ability to make every choice from a place of compassion, both for ourselves and for others. As we turn our focus away from the behavior of others and towards our own behavior, we can begin to ask ourselves honest questions about how we are engaging in life. Here are a few questions we find helpful in examining ourselves:

  • How am I greeting the world with my face (my expressions) and my speech?
  • Am I expressing negative energy in my thoughts, tones, or speech?
  • Do I remember that every thought I place in my own water (within my own being) either enhances or pollutes the water of all others and the planet?
  • Are my tones and words filled with kindness, compassion, and love?
  • Am I actively taking responsibility for what is mine to change?
  • Am I inappropriately taking responsibility for what is not mine?
  • Am I looking for goodness, rather than flaws?
  • How am I being unconscious in my habitual behaviors?
  • How am I being thoughtless or insensitive to others?
  • Are the differences I notice attached to emotions and beliefs?
  • What do I believe that keeps me stuck?
  • How are my perceptions incorrect?
  • Do I spend enough time connecting to Nature?
  • Am I being quiet enough to really listen?

The questions above refer to choices in our actions as governed by our thoughts; they are examples of how to apply *The Ten Choices in our daily activities and interactions. As we ask ourselves these questions, it becomes easier and easier to make better choices consciously. As we consider the above questions we find Laarkmaa’s wise counsel interwoven through each word. *The Ten Choices compiled from Laarkmaa’s comprehensive wisdom, will certainly guide us into our own healing and the remembrance of Who We Are.

*The Ten Choices for Evolution

The explanation of each Ten Choices is found in Chapter 10: Guidelines for Living in Pia and Cullen’s book Remembering Who We Are: Laarkma’s Guidance on Healing the Human Condition
  • The First Choice: Choose love.
  • The Second Choice: Choose trust.
  • The Third Choice: Choose to create new perspectives for cooperation rather than competition.
  • The Fourth Choice: Choose to be compassionate.
  • The Fifth Choice: Choose transcendence.
  • The Sixth Choice: Choose truth.
  • The Seventh Choice: Choose to illuminate our lives with joy.
  • The Eighth Choice: Choose to connect.
  • The Ninth Choice: Choose harmony.
  • The Tenth Choice: Choose to be aware, to be responsible, and to make choices from the heart in every present moment.

Copyrighted material reprinted only with permission from authors Pia Smith Orleane and Cullen Baird Smith

Listen to the interview I did with Pia, Cullen, and Laarkma on A Fine Time for Healing. Hear Laarkma’s voice as the star entity answers to my questions.


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Everyday Malfunctions Caused by Mercury Retrograde Jan and Feb 2015

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mercury retrogradeMercury Retrograde: Jan. 21-Feb 11th

It’s Groundhog Day All Over Again!

Article by Larry Schwimmer  Posted February 2, 2015 on Huffpost Healthy Living

I feel a bit like the “astrologer version” of Punxsutawny Phil, the legendary groundhog in the movie Groundhog Day, who emerges each spring from his burrow to announce whether – weather conditions will be good or bad.

Less dramatically, as I step out of my home in San Francisco and look in the skies, I see planetary weather that could be problematic, because…from January 21 to February 11, Mercury will again be retrograde. So, I have to warn you, it’s “groundhog day” again!

I want to help you avoid the frustration and annoyance from this event felt by Phil Connors, the main character in the movie played by Bill Murray. Unlike him you are not “doomed to spend the rest of eternity” plagued by the problems of Mercury retrograde. However, you can expect to be a bit challenged for the next three weeks as the world seems to go haywire with unusual communication problems, misunderstandings, out of the ordinary delays and equipment breakdowns of all kinds. In addition, you can expect upsetting problems occurring in our stock market and economy, as well as politicians with bad ideas and inept solutions.

For those people who are not familiar with Mercury retrograde (such as those living in a cave, being held captive by aliens or because no mention of it appeared in the Wall Street Journal), please let me briefly explain.

The planet Mercury rules our intelligence, mind, memory and, all types of communication ranging from talking and texting to writing. It also affects our self-expression, and communication style. In a more public sense, it rules commerce, computers, telephones, transportation and air travel.

How Mercury functions in a person’s birth chart explains a great deal about how they think, formulate ideas and communicate them. It indicates how someone makes sense of the everyday world they live in. During these three weeks when Mercury is retrograde, one’s mental faculties and communication skills are not functioning well; in fact they seem to mal-function.

When this unique event happens (3 times this year), communications of all types go awry, haywire, or even crazy! Unexpectedly, normal communication becomes unreliable, filled with misinformation where important data is missing or misunderstood. The passage of information from one person to the other seems to be unintentionally cloudy or confusing in some way. A person’s intellectual, communication and mental processes – are less acute. They become dull, careless, mistake-prone and forgetful.

The result is that any action one takes or decision one makes during the retrograde don’t have the intended result. In fact, they often fail or seem sabotaged. As a result they will have to be re-done or restructured in some way when the Retrograde period ends and Mercury goes direct.

The traditional advice I’ve written about for years should still be regarded: don’t start projects; don’t sign contracts; don’t get married; don’t buy equipment or a new car; and avoid travel. And, be ever vigilant for mis-communications and mis-understandings. Oh yes, one last thing: expect delays and be patient.

Why This Retrograde is Extremely Unique

Each Mercury retrograde has a certain flavor and character based on the sign that Mercury is in when it goes retrograde and the sign that it ends up in when it goes direct. They are often different signs. This retrograde is unique in that Mercury will start out in the “air” sign of Aquarius and end up in Aquarius. In astrology there are four “elements”: Fire, Earth, Air and Water. This retrograde is even more unique because Mercury retrograde periods only occur in the same “element” (i.e. Fire, Earth, Air, Water) sign approximately every seven years.

What’s even more noteworthy is that the Sun will be entering this same air sign of Aquarius the day before, January 20; and when Mercury turns direct on Feb 11th the Sun will still be in Aquarius. Why is this all so significant?

Noted astro-cycles expert, Ray Merriman gives the answer,

“The last time there was an air-air-air trio involving this set up of Mercury retrograde and the Sun (in the same element) was in 2008. In fact, it happened three times in 2008: January 28-February 18, May 26-June 19, September 24-October 15. You might remember what happened in 2008 in regards to the world economy. The time before that was in 2001, when it occurred twice: June 3-27 and October 1-22. You might remember what happened in 2001 in regards to the world economy, as the dot com bubble burst in May of that year, followed by the attack on the World Trade Center in September 2001. It was a time of hysteria in financial markets and politics. This trio was also present in late 1929 and 1930 too. It is approximately a 7-year cycle.”

As you may recall, during 2008, the stock market was crashing and world economies were being brought to their knees. Panic and fear occurred in all the financial markets. There was confusion and upset among politicians and our government as to what to do. As one would expect, since it was during the retrograde, many bad ideas were turned into poorly thought-out, expedient solutions. It’s taken us years to dig “partially” out of that economic hole and the turmoil created during those times.

Once again, we have Mercury retrograde in the air sign of Aquarius during an ominous time in the world and in the financial markets. Be sure to pay attention to your investments (as in: “It’s January 21st. Do you know where your money is?”) But how is this Mercury retrograde likely to affect your communications and interactions during the next three weeks?

One of the positive qualities of Mercury in the air sign of Aquarius is that people are likely to express their humanitarian side by being more empathetic than usual. Unfortunately, they will also have a tendency to stubbornly believe they are right. There is a mental arrogance often at work when Mercury is in this air sign. It becomes hard for people to admit when they’re wrong and have made a mistake. (“It’s not my error. I’m sure of it.”)

People will get attached to ideas that won’t work, especially ones that seem new and innovative to them. In fact, in an effort to correct a mistake they’ve made, they will come up with a method to fix a problem that actually makes the problem worst. That’s what you can expect during this Mercury retrograde.

Imagine someone losing the package you ordered. Instead of saying, “Sorry, let me send you out a new package, they’re likely to come up with some ridiculous suggestion to remedy the problem. (“Since our delivery person couldn’t find your apartment, why don’t we send the package to your sister’s home. Then she can call you when it arrives and you can drive over to her house and pick it up.”)

Eventually, when this retrograde is over, the more positive side of Mercury in Aquarius will take over. The ideas and solutions that are proposed are truly innovative and better thought out, and more likely to work. They are likely to be both brilliant and practical solutions.

Wait Until Mercury Retrograde is Over

Wait until Mercury goes direct on February 11, to take action and make important decisions. When that happens, clearer communication will return, important data can again be relied on, and you’ll see matters with crystal clear vision. You’ll possess important information you didn’t know while Mercury was retrograde. This new knowledge will help ensure you’re making a correct decision. If you heed this cautionary advice, you’ll have less frustration, fewer mistakes and disappointing failures during these three weeks.

If you want to know if you were born with Mercury Retrograde; and, where your personal transits are – to see if they are affecting you, go to Free Transit Calculator and enter your birth date. And, if you’re curious to learn more about your personal Horoscope in 2015 and what it says about your love relationships, career, investments and health: Order your customized Report: Your Horoscope & Future in 2015.

Larry Schwimmer is president of, a San Francisco-based consulting company. The firm uses planetary cycles analysis to counsel individual and corporate clients on picking the “best dates” to make successful decisions of all types: personal, marketing, financial, and political. The firm currently advises a diverse client base that includes politicians, presidents of major corporations and an MLB baseball team. Schwimmer is an internationally known business consultant, life coach and astrologer (with a Fortune 500 M&A background). Visit his website: Larry Schwimmer is an astrologer in private practice. For private consultations on your compatibility with someone, contact him at: or go to
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