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Story of Hope Love Destiny

If you like inspirational memoirs about the power of hope, or just want to read a candid expose of my previously misaligned life, FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny is the book for you!! It’s a page turner!!

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This memoir written by a woman author tells a compelling, impactful true life story about hope and love, and how she found her destiny. An excellent book for women!

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Inspiring Authors Message

Author, Randi G. Fine 

Living Life to the Fullest

Inspirational Author’s Message

The most difficult people in our lives end up being our greatest teachers.   The hurdles they place before us and the challenges they present to us are only lessons that we must learn for our greater good.   Think of the oyster…without the irritating grain of sand there would be no pearl. ~ Randi G. Fine

We all experience times of joy and times of suffering as we move through our lives. Life is a breeze during the happy times; we get to sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. But we must ask ourselves how good joy would feel if we had no adversity to contrast it? The phrase, “nobody said life was easy,” was coined with good reason. The truth is, life is hard work…but the beauty of life is that it has many facets.  We are constantly challenged to learn and grow.  And as we rise to those challenges we become stronger, wiser and better human beings. The universe holds all the answers we will ever need. It’s all there for the taking if we watch, listen, and trust our intuition. I invite you to follow me on my journey as I explore the many paths to happiness, and the many avenues that will lead us to living life to the fullest. I wish you serenity and joy in your life. ~ Randi

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Throw Pity Party Move Forward

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by Author, Randi G. Fine

I have discussed this thought in previous articles, but this time I will state it in the form of an affirmation: “There is a reason of greater good for everything that happens.”

Acknowledging that there is a greater good does not necessarily soften the impact or subdue the suffering, but it does give meaning to our pain and offers us the prospect of a positive outcome; of recovery.  It also serves to open our eyes, look for the deeper meaning, and recognize the signs of change as they appear.

We have all experienced victimization in our lives.  That does not mean we have to live with a victim mentality; choose to live life wallowing in our own misery and blaming others.  When we can trust that our pain will ultimately be beneficial in some way, the victim mentality, which is self-defeating behavior, is obliterated.  Affirmations are very helpful in changing our outlook.

Though it is beneficial to think positively, we must remember that we are human beings with emotions.  If we move through painful challenges by blocking our true feelings, never dealing with them and pretending we are fine, the hurt builds up inside and eventually wreaks havoc on us.  Recovery becomes impossible.  Our feelings should always be acknowledged and our pain should be felt and accepted.  It is okay to feel sad when we are sad.  Dwelling on our suffering and blaming circumstance is entirely different. That is self-defeating.

So when you are sad after life throws you one of its curve balls, indulge yourself.  Allow your suffering for the fixed duration of your choosing; preferably no longer than two days.  Let me make it clear that none of this applies when grieving the loss of a loved one.  One cannot and should not put a time limit on the natural stages of the grief recovery process.


Begin planning your pity party by deciding how many days you will immerse yourself in misery.  You are sad, so feel sad.  Stock up on Ben and Jerry’s and/or whatever other comfort foods you desire.  Put on your most comfortable clothes–you know, the ones you would not be caught dead wearing in public.  Choose wisely–you will be wearing these clothes and sleeping in them non-stop during this time span.  Close the shades, crawl under the covers, and cry to your heart’s content.  Punch a pillow as often as needed.

When your pity party time is up, be entirely resolved to get back to productive living.   Take steps to gradually move forward in your life.  Allow set-backs and be kind to yourself when they happen.  Seek therapy if needed.  Repeat the affirmation “There is a reason of greater good for everything that happens,” and believe it.

One thing we can always count on…everything in life changes.



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Healing Power of Universal Love

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Article Written by Georgi Y. Johnson, Waking Times Contributor

Where are you now? Are you confined in a physical body? Are you limited by the range of your physical senses? Does the feeling of the weight of your body define you? Does the flickering of the mind give you shape? Are you found in the computer screen as your eyes pass over these words? Or in the feelings or reactions in your blood, nervous system and thoughts to these words? Where are you now?

Imagine that there is an infinite love in the space around, between, behind and before all objects, all feelings, all sensations. How would it be if the secret to all we are, and all we can ever be is not in the stuff, but in the space between all things? How would it be if the only obstacle between ourselves and this infinite love was our own beliefs in limitation?

Imagine that awareness, or consciousness is not confined within the perimeters of the body and the five physical senses. Imagine that even the secret to our ability to feel, touch, perceive or be aware is found in the space between objects, not in the objects we perceive.

We can try it out. Focus on an object nearby and put the full consciousness there. Perhaps use your hand.

Now shift your focus to the space around the hand, letting your attention move into all that area around the hand where the hand is NOT. Can you sense how your perception of the hand comes to life? Can you sense this appendage, this dear, cherished, sacred human hand of yours comes to life?

We depend on the space between stuff. We depend on it as much and even more than the oxygen we breath. We depend on the empty spaces within out own body and mind – far more than we depend on any one cell or any one organ. Without the empty spaces we would implode. Without the empty spaces, being here would not be possible.

The good news is that each particle that makes up the cells which make up our physical body is over 99 percent emptiness. So this secret – this infinity – is not missing. It is just we that exclude it through a dogmatic addiction and investment in the reality of objects, rather than the deeper truth of the omnipresent, pre-existent emptiness between and before and after every object.

We believe in objects as the source of “objective” reality because from the perspective of the physical brain, they seem to be stable. We can grasp at them. Who can grasp at empty space?

Yet no object is stable. All is in constant transformation – including our bodies, brains, earth, water, wind and anything we could ever create. All is born and all will die in an ongoing circulation against the backdrop of the only stability there can ever be – the backdrop of this infinite, eternal empty space.

Our body is a limitation in time and space. Our minds are limitations in time and space. Even our perception is limited in time and space. Yet time and space could not exist without timelessness and boundlessness. These two parameters of all form, cannot be, or inter-be, let alone transform or heal, without the pre-existent eternity and infinity in which they appear. And eternity and infinity can not birth time and space without that one, prior even to perception, before consciousness, which allows the splitting into these two dimensions.

That one is intimate, all pervasive, alive, powerful and everywhere in the emptiness. It is just so close to home, we fail to allow it. That one is at the source of all we are, the source of the here and now, the source of being, separately and as one. The source of endless love.

Who or what can be afraid of the emptiness? Why would we retract our consciousness or fear this space which is never born and never dies? Why would we shy from it, in our outer and inner perception?

Seen from the perspective of an object – such as a separate personality that believes it must fulfill its agenda, that believes in consequence or good and evil, that believes it can somehow claim immortality even though it doesn’t even know for what – emptiness is a threat. It is a threat because the emptiness exposes the “person” as nothing other than a form in transformation. It exposes that the “personality” that wants, grasps, and rejects in a perennial separation from the whole is in a state of delusion.

Emptiness is the death bell of the person – the bell that chimes through every moment of awakening. So the person is afraid. The person is an object. We watch our persons in their life-time careers. We watch them strive and survive. We watch them grown and die, again and again. But we are not the person. We are not the object, but the subject – the one that watches through the heart of the emptiness.

Yet this person, believing in itself too much,  has no idea of the blessings that rain down out of its own demise. In the agony of survival in separate form, it fights, cries out, and screams in pain. It regresses back to seek justification in the wounds of childhood, it runs forward to seek status in the thwarted ambition to become “somebody”. It contracts itself in a dark freeze of rejection of it’s own holy loneliness, a loneliness created by this very investment in absolute separation. It becomes blind to others, deaf to itself, and cruel.

All around this person, the love is waiting. The supreme friendliness of the universe, and all we are which is free of being anybody, is waiting to receive this contraction called “somebody” home into its infinite and eternal core – not as a malformed individual, but as the supreme individual – an inextricable part of the source of it all.

Loving awareness is everywhere in the emptiness, familiar, intimate, timeless and patient. All we have to learn to do is to allow it. Allow the empty space between all phenomena as being the one causal presence of all we are, and all we ever could be.

All we need is to softly let our personal awareness fall back into that greater awareness of awareness. To let ourselves expand beyond the limitations of thought and feeling into this boundless, inner and outer awareness of being aware. Here, in this infinite space, our small, transient struggles are tenderly held and unjudged: here, our body, minds, thoughts, sufferings and fears can find liberation and peace.

We are held in a refinement of care which needs no mental control. Through the allowance of our own infinite awareness, the smaller forms of us can rest in the heart of the greatest healer of all – the life that runs through the emptiness, through every molecule of this transient, sentient, physical body, and through every moment of this awesome service to creation which is the agreement to be here, now, for real.

About the Author

Georgi Y. Johnson is a spiritual writer and teacher. She is author of a book on three layers of perception: I AM HERE – Opening the Windows of Life & Beauty. You can read more on her blog, here.

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The Toxic Relationship Between Narcissist and Partner

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In her latest You Tube video, NPD expert Randi Fine discusses the dynamics of the toxic, unbalanced relationship that must exist between a Narcissist and the person who chooses to remain with him as partner or spouse.

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NPD Survivors Subject to Unfair Judgment

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In her latest You Tube video, NPD expert Randi Fine discusses the unfair  and painful judgment NPD abuse survivors are often subjected to.

Due to the covert nature of narcissistic abuse, the victim is often seen as the perpetrator and the perpetrator seen as the victim. This is one of the perpetual tragedies survivors of NPD endure. Even when we find the courage to stop the abuse, we can never redeem ourselves in the minds of the judgmental ignoramuses, professional or otherwise.

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder Abuse on You Tube

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Abuse Series with Expert Randi Fine Now On You Tube

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If you are a Narcissistic Personality Disorder Abuse Survivor, more help is here. Please visit and like my new Facebook page for great articles and advice on NPD

Compassionate Support for Narcissistic Abuse Survivors with Randi Fine

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More Help for Narcissistic Abuse Survivors


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Dear Reader,

If you are a Narcissistic Personality Disorder Abuse Survivor, more help is here. Please visit and like my new Facebook page, Compassionate Support for Narcissistic Abuse Survivors with Randi Fine.

I am an NPD Abuse Survivor myself. As a counselor, speaker, author and radio show host I hear from thousands of people who are suffering tremendously from Narcissistic Personality Disorder Abuse. I know all there is to know about this insidious disorder, and I want to help you navigate your journey to recovery. Please use this page as your own personal learning tool and support system. I understand what you are going through and want you to know that I am there for you.



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Free Advice Fridays for Your Narcissistic Abuse Issues

free advice fridaysSee column on the right side of this website labeled Narcissistic Personality Disorder  for a complete  list of all NPD related articles and videos.

The Narcissistic Personality Disorder articles on this website are by far the most sought out and read articles out of the hundreds of articles that I have posted. I may not hear from everyone who visits this site, but based on daily statistics, I know that many of you are interested in issues that relate to the Narcissists in your life.

As a survivor of Narcissistic abuse myself I know how frustrating, helpless, and confusing this disorder can be to deal with. As an experienced counselor I know that issues dealing with this problem are always arising. I am fully aware that many of you cannot afford the out of pocket expense of paying for counseling, but do have important questions you would like answered. I can and want to help all of you work through these sensitive issues.

The second Friday of every month my internet radio show, A Fine Time for Healing, will be entirely devoted to taking to your calls and answering your questions about NPD. The advice is FREE!

The show airs at 11 a.m. EST and runs for 45 minutes. The number you will call to connect with the show and speak to me is 424-220-1801.

This time will not be a convenient one for everyone so there is another way for you to get your questions answered. Just email me ahead of time and I will read your questions on air and answer them. I assure you that your identity will be kept anonymous.

All shows will be recorded and archived after broadcasting. They can be listened to at your convenience by clicking on the link I will provide you when you email me. Please send your emails to with “Radio Show Question” in the subject heading.

The schedule of upcoming shows is as follows:

Listen to August 14, 2015  Show

September 11, 2015  11 a.m. EST (10 a.m. CT, 9 a.m. MT, 8 a.m. PT)

October 9, 2015  11 a.m. EST (10 a.m. CT, 9 a.m. MT, 8 a.m. PT)

November 13, 2015  11 a.m. EST (10 a.m. CT, 9 a.m. MT, 8 a.m. PT)

December 11, 2015  11 a.m. EST (10 a.m. CT, 9 a.m. MT, 8 a.m. PT)

January 8, 2016  11 a.m. EST (10 a.m. CT, 9 a.m. MT, 8 a.m. PT)

February 12, 2016  11 a.m. EST (10 a.m. CT, 9 a.m. MT, 8 a.m. PT)

March 11, 2016  11 a.m. EST (10 a.m. CT, 9 a.m. MT, 8 a.m. PT)

All show dates, times, descriptions and links will be posted on my Blog Talk Radio Show Page as well as on this Website’s Show Page . Again, the call-in number is 424-220-1801

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No True Targets in Emotional Attack

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Emotional Attacks

Choosing Not to Be a Target

Written by Madisyn Taylor for Daily OM

“You cannot control other people’s emotions, but you can control your own.”

Hurtful confrontations often leave us feeling drained and confused. When someone attacks us emotionally, we may wonder what we did to rouse their anger, and we take their actions personally. We may ask ourselves what we could have done to compel them to behave or speak that way toward us. It’s important to remember that there are no real targets in an emotional attack and that it is usually a way for the attacker to redirect their uncomfortable feelings away from themselves. When people are overcome by strong emotions, like hurt or anguish, they may see themselves as victims and lash out at others as a means of protection or to make themselves feel better. You may be able to shield yourself from an emotional attack by not taking the behavior personally. First, however, it is good to cultivate a state of detachment that can provide you with some protection from the person who is attacking you. This will allow you to feel compassion for this person and remember that their behavior isn’t as much about you as it is about their need to vent their emotions.

If you have difficulty remaining unaffected by someone’s behavior, take a moment to breathe deeply and remind yourself that you didn’t do anything wrong, and you aren’t responsible for people’s feelings. If you can see that this person is indirectly expressing a need to you—whether they are reaching out for help or wanting to be heard—you may be able to diffuse the attack by getting them to talk about what is really bothering them.

You cannot control other people’s emotions, but you can control your own. If you sense yourself responding to their negativity, try not to let yourself. Keep your heart open to them, and they may let go of their defensiveness and yield to your compassion and openness.

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Exploring the Journey of Our Souls

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What on Earth Are We Doing Here?

Article written by Randi G. Fine

Every one of us has pondered the purpose of life; why we are born, why we struggle, and what happens after we die. If we fail to dig deeper, life will not make sense, it will have no meaning. Are we just tiny meaningless entities in the universe who die and then are recycled into the earth without leaving a trace?

I believe that there is a greater plan for everything that has or will ever exist. As in many other instances of analysis we must always look at the bigger picture. Over time I have taken aspects of others’ theories and put them together. Now I will share my perspective and paint that picture for you.

The concepts I share have been supported by a wide variety of credible sources, more than I could begin to cite in this article. I have been enlightened by the opinions of others, but I do not give credence to their theories simply because they have affirmed their beliefs. I give credence to their theories because, after much contemplation, they make sense to me.

ndeMany people have had glimpses into the after-life. Though there may be similarities in the experiences they report, every experience is different. The purpose of life is a mystery that cannot be fully comprehended until we pass from this earth and experience what comes next for us.

I believe that we are the physical manifestation of evolving souls—spiritual beings living a human experience. Our souls progress through what we experience while in our physical bodies. Those progressions take us through a series of spiritual growth levels—the ultimate goal being convergence with the Source that each of our souls originated from; the infinite light, a blissful energy realm of pure unconditional love.

In its search for growth, every soul incarnates at least one time to experience life. Most souls choose to repeatedly come back. The journey we undertake is not an easy one, but life also offers us many tangible pleasures that we as souls in the spiritual realm cannot otherwise experience.

Life is school. A temporary place we go to learn. It is not our true home; the spiritual realm is. Before each incarnation we outline the lessons our souls need to experience for their ongoing spiritual evolutions. We contract with other souls to share cooperative physical journeys; they assist us and we assist them in our learning processes. These souls are often members of energy groups we have traveled with since the beginning of existence. We may intuitively recognize their energy in life, but their physical manifestation are always different. The incarnated form we take on is specific to the role we come here to play.

spiritual growthOur soul’s primary focus is the facilitation of its spiritual growth. We come here to work things out; to grow through challenges and rise above adversity.

The more difficult the challenges faced in the physical world are and the more hurdles are jumped, the more rapid one’s spiritual growth will be. Though adversity involves suffering and hardship and is certainly undesirable, it is only a catalyst put before us to help us evolve.

There is no suffering or adversity in the blissful, spiritual realm, the home where we spend most of eternity. Because we make the decision to face adversity while existing in a place of serenity, and cannot recall how incredibly difficult life as a human may be, our souls may sometimes take on extremely difficult challenges that are immensely difficult to bear as physical beings. Though the goal is to rise above the challenges we set for ourselves, sometimes these challenges are humanly insurmountable. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try our best to work through them; the effort put forth to overcome them is never wasted. All earnest effort contributes to our growth.

Whether acknowledged on a conscious or subconscious level, we all know that our mission in life is personal growth. We came here fully intending to experience, learn, and grow as much as possible. We fulfill those intentions through adversity.

Though our outline for living was pre-planned, everyone has free will in life. We are all free to choose our experiences and we are all free to assign whatever perceptions we wish to attach to them.

Each of us has come here with important missions that only we can fulfill. Though we exist in a world of people and develop many relationships along the way, our soul is essentially alone on its eternal journey.

Life does not end here. It is merely a brief segment of our eternal lives, just as schooling is only a portion of our human lives. It is to our advantage to learn, achieve, and grow, despite the adversity we experience.

life purpose1Our purpose in life is to love, learn and experience as much as possible so that we may fulfill our mission of further enlightening our souls. Our purpose is to grow through the many challenges we face with the mindfulness that life as we know it is very temporary.

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Staying True to Your Inner Voice

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meditationAlways Remain True to Yourself

Article Written by Randi G. Fine

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We each have subtle senses; intuitions, gut feelings, little voices inside our heads that guide our judgment.

We do not need to elicit our intuition every time we have a decision to make. Many of our decisions are determined by conscious thought, prior experience and through the employment of our five physical senses; sight, taste, hearing, touch, and smell.

Sometimes decisions or solutions to a dilemma are not clear cut and judgment calls are needed. Sometimes we have nothing tangible to draw on in determining the best outcome. These are the times we have to summon our conscience and rely on the perceptive abilities of our subtle senses.

Our intuition is never wrong. It always steers us in the right direction. We only need listen and trust it. Granted, that is much easier said than done. It takes great faith to believe in something so abstract, especially when we know that the right decision may not be a popular one. I had such a dilemma in 2009 while writing the manuscript of my memoir, Fine…ly.

child abuseThe first draft of the manuscript was nearly finished, but the story as a whole did not seem to make sense. An integral part of my personal history was absent. Though I had felt compelled to share the truth about my dysfunctional childhood, the early pain that had so greatly influenced my life, I had deliberately chosen not to incorporate the information into the story. I had resigned myself to leaving those facts out to protect my parents.

Revealing the truth meant “outing” their emotional abuse. Parents with Narcissistic Personality Disorder spend a lifetime conditioning their children not to talk about what goes on in the family. To do so would be considered the ultimate betrayal. My parents, still alive, would no doubt be hurt, upset, and angry.

But avoiding the truth meant perpetuating a secret that I no longer wanted to keep, one that had caused me heartache and pain throughout my life. Avoiding the truth meant protecting others at my expense. That would have been easier to deal with in the short term but harder on me in the long run.

I had a difficult decision to make. The public airing of our family’s dirty laundry would take great courage and resolve on my part. I found myself at an impasse, though intuitively I knew what the right answer was.

After a great deal of praying and soul searching, I decided to follow my inner guidance. I put my faith in telling the truth and committed to writing about it. It was the harder road to take, but I knew deep within my soul that it was the right one.

A low level of apprehension constantly pervaded my thoughts in the interim between the completion of my manuscript and the publishing of it. It seemed my intuition was at odds with my conscience—it has never been my nature to inflict emotional pain on others. It was a difficult time for me, but I knew the conflict was fear based and I was not going to allow it to overrule my inner guidance. I only hoped that I would someday receive confirmation that my decision was right. Book CoverFine…ly was published in October 2010. With the taxing emotional demands of Fine…ly’s pre-release, the joy of my new authorship had been bridled. Once removed, I could begin relaxing and basking in its glow.

I sent my parents a copy of the book with a note attached that said, “I’m finally free.” They read it and reacted exactly as I had anticipated they would. They were shocked, hurt, and angry. They wanted to know how I could “do such a horrible thing to them.” Still I never second guessed my decision. I told the truth and stated the facts.

It was not long after the initial impact of my parents’ reactions hit that I received the confirmation I had hoped for—the one that would affirm I had made the right decision. With this confirmation I knew, without a doubt, that this challenge had been placed in my hands for a reason.

Pandora’s Box now fully opened, years and years of silent suffering endured by my two sisters and I was finally exposed. The ugly truth spewed out. Though my parents remained in denial, my sisters and I no longer had to. The revelation cleared the way for the healing process to begin for the three of us.

Once published, the reception to my memoir Fine…ly was excellent. Everyone loved the book—word was that they could not put it down. That is what every author hopes for. Contrarily, appalled by my unthinkable “betrayal,” my parents made it known that they threw my book in the trash. To this day (five years later) the thought of it still makes their blood boil.

Several months after my book was released I went back to my home town and met up with a group of old girlfriends, many of whom I had not seen in twenty years or longer. They had all read my memoir and loved it—and they all seemed proud of their childhood friend’s accomplishment.

secretsHaving known me in my earlier years (some very well) these women assumed they knew everything about me. But that was not true. I had not revealed certain aspects of my childhood to them or anyone else. It had taken a lifetime for me to understand the deep hurt I felt inside. It had taken years for me to unravel the confusion that typically accompanies narcissistic abuse. And besides, malignant narcissistic abuse is covert. Even if I had understood what was going on back then, no one outside of my immediate family would have been able to recognize it.

My friends had many question about my story. Their curiosity was understandable. After all they were my friends—several of us had grown up together. So I addressed their inquiries unguarded and with more candor than I would have afforded others. But I was soon taken aback when a few of them began exploiting my vulnerability and challenging the truth of my story. What I thought was genuine interest suddenly felt highly judgmental.

They questioned how I could have written what I did about my parents. They accused me of exaggerating the truth and being cruel to them.

I felt cornered, goaded into justifying my decisions. And the harder I tried to vindicate myself, the deeper hole I seemed to dig. Having been put on the spot I reacted defensively and was therefore accused of being unresolved about my past, an accomplishment I had proudly worked so hard at. They eventually had me in tears. The rest of the women watched the assault and said nothing. No one advocated for me – no one spoke on my behalf. That was the last time I associated with any of these women.

What caused my friends to react the way they did is unclear.  I do know that their reactions had little or nothing to do with me – that I was just a projection screen for their own feelings, self-images, and unresolved personal issues. In any case, the reason for their uncalled for behavior is essentially unimportant. It is irrelevant to the point I am trying to make.

intuition2The way I handled myself was a choice. I allowed myself to be victimized. No one forced me to justify myself or my position. I volunteered that all on my own. My intentions were pure and my conscience was clear. The only thing I lacked was confidence and firm resolve in what I stood for.

I learned a valuable lesson that day. I guess it was more like a valuable reminder; I knew the lesson but did not apply the knowledge. What others think or say about us does not matter. What is important is that we always stay true to ourselves.

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Free Advice Fridays for Your Narcissistic Abuse Issues

Listen to Podcast Shows on Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

Whether to Forgive or Not Forgive the Narcissist Abuser   Narcissistic Personality Disorder: What Is It?  Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Parent/Child Abuse   Narcissistic Personality Disorder: The Family PortraitNarcissistic Personality Disorder: Narcissistic Mothers   Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Mothers and Daughters    Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Answering Your Questions
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