Life Awakening

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Story of Hope Love Destiny

If you like inspirational memoirs about the power of hope, or just want to read a candid expose of my previously misaligned life, FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny is the book for you!! It’s a page turner!!

Available in Paperback or as an E-Book

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This memoir written by a woman author tells a compelling, impactful true life story about hope and love, and how she found her destiny. An excellent book for women!



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Inspiring Authors Message

Author, Randi G. Fine 

Living Life to the Fullest

Inspirational Author’s Message

The most difficult people in our lives end up being our greatest teachers.   The hurdles they place before us and the challenges they present to us are only lessons that we must learn for our greater good.   Think of the oyster…without the irritating grain of sand there would be no pearl. ~ Randi G. Fine

We all experience times of joy and times of suffering as we move through our lives. Life is a breeze during the happy times; we get to sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. But we must ask ourselves how good joy would feel if we had no adversity to contrast it? The phrase, “nobody said life was easy,” was coined with good reason. The truth is, life is hard work…but the beauty of life is that it has many facets.  We are constantly challenged to learn and grow.  And as we rise to those challenges we become stronger, wiser and better human beings. The universe holds all the answers we will ever need. It’s all there for the taking if we watch, listen, and trust our intuition. I invite you to follow me on my journey as I explore the many paths to happiness, and the many avenues that will lead us to living life to the fullest. I wish you serenity and joy in your life. ~ Randi


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Healthy Self Love

Healthy Self Love Quote Collection

The one person I am with forever is me. My relationship with myself is eternal, so I choose to be my own best friend. I choose to love and accept myself, and talk to myself as I would a beloved person in my life.  I saturate all the cells in my body with love, and they become vibrantly healthy. I relate with love to all of my life. ~Louise Hay

Your problem is… you’re too busy holding onto your unworthiness.
- Ram Dass

When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself.  When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you.  Encouragement should come from the inside. ~Joel Osteen

Our species thrives on the reciprocity of love and kindness. We should always reach out to those in need. But we must show kindness to ourselves before we can show it to others. Each of us must define for ourselves the balance between taking care of ourselves and assisting others, and accept that we cannot be everything to everyone.~Randi G Fine

To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are. ~Author Unknown

First become alone. First start enjoying yourself. First love yourself. First become so authentically happy that if nobody comes it doesn’t matter; you are full, overflowing. If nobody knocks at your door it is perfectly okay; you are not missing. You are not waiting for someone to come and knock at the door. You are at home. If somebody comes: good—beautiful. If nobody comes that too is beautiful and good. ~Osho~

The rule of thumb has to be: I’m going to be very, very, very happy, and then do everything I have time to do after that. ~Abraham

Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion. -Margo Anand

Once you believe in yourself and see your soul as divine and precious, you’ll automatically be converted to a being who can create miracles. ~Wayne Dyer~

True love only comes when self-love is already there. ~Randi G. Fine~

You are a beautiful creation—perfectly imperfect—a work in progress—you have everything you need to fulfill your purpose—don’t dilute yourself for any person or for any reason—you are enough. Be unapologetically you. ~Steve Maraboli

How different would your life be if the fear, shame, self-doubt, and burdens of your past no longer existed—if you, accepted yourself, loved yourself, and respected yourself despite your weight, appearance or history? These things do not define you. Let them go and start creating the life you desire. ~Author Unknown~ (quote found on weighingthefacts.blogspot.com)

In the space between each thought may you know your greatness, the vast nature of your being.  In the space between each breath may you feel the immense depth of your soul, and know yourself to be love. ~Julie Parker

Fill your own well with love so that others may drink from it. ~Randi G. Fine

 Awaken to the true beauty of your Spirit. You have come through portals of light to be here on the planet right now. Write you name upon the sky and know your life is a blessing. ~Laurel Bleadon –Maffei~

Becoming acquainted with yourself is a price well worth paying for the love that will really address your needs. ~Daphne Rose Kingma~

A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life. ~Andrew Matthews

Self love does not lessen our ability to love others; it increases it. The more love we have within the more love we have to give out. ~Randi G. Fine

There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout: This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me or leave me. Accept me or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don’t fit your idea of who I should be, and don’t try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision. When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%,  good and bad, you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you. ~Stacey Charter

Something inside you emerges….an innate, in-dwelling peace, stillness, aliveness. It is the unconditioned, who you are in your essence. It is what you had been looking for in the love object. It is yourself.  ~Eckhart Tolle

No matter what age you are, or what your circumstances might be, you are special, and you still have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning.~Barbara de Angelis

Cultivating self-love is the tallest mountain we will ever have to climb, yet it is the core of everything we do in life. ~Randi G Fine

It doesn’t make sense to call ourselves ugly, because we don’t really see ourselves. We don’t watch ourselves sleeping in bed, curled up silent with our chests rising and falling with our own rhythm. We don’t see ourselves reading a book, eyes fluttering and glowing.  You don’t see yourself looking at someone with love and care in your heart.  There’s no mirror in your way when you’re laughing and smiling, and pure happiness is leaking out of you.  You would know exactly how bright and beautiful you are if you saw yourself in the moments where you are truly your authentic self. ~Author Unknown~ (found on eattentiondeficitdisorder.tumblr.com)

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The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing and Recovery

Coming Soon!!!!

Help has arrived.

Don’t let the narcissist steal another second from you!

Sit back, relax, nestle into a comfy sofa and enjoy a soothing cup of tea. Turn the pages of this book, knowing this guide will help you work through some of the most challenging circumstances a person can encounter on the planet. You are in good hands with Randi Fine’s outstanding book. Readers, you are in for a real treat.  ~Andrea Schneider, MSW, LCSW  Psychotherapist/Life Coach specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery in Los Angeles. 

Close Encounters is a comprehensive, compassionate and supportive guide to understanding the unique and complex nature of narcissistic abuse and the emotionally crippling syndrome that results from it. This groundbreaking book gives narcissistic abuse survivors the most complete and trustworthy road map to guide them through the healing process, into recovery, and ultimately to the freedom and happiness they deserve.

Narcissistic abuse survivors, concerned supporters, and helping professionals will find the most up-to-date information on the psychological, emotional and physical effects of NPD abuse. Readers also learn how narcissistic abuse infiltrates various settings including work, family-of-origin, friendships and romantic relationships.

Written in a non-labeling, non-judgmental style, survivors will find this book highly educating and empowering.

To those people in your life who cannot possibly understand what you have endured, you no longer have to explain. Just hand them this book.

You have suffered enough. Now it is time to heal.

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Self Centered Maternal Narcissist

The self-centered maternal narcissist wants all sympathy directed at her. She could care less about how her children feel. Even worse than that, she is sadistic towards them. She delights in her ability to manipulate and upset her children. It is a form of entertainment for her. She is an emotional vampire who feeds off the pain she causes.
Her strength is in her children’s weaknesses. She stockpiles sensitive, injurious information about each child through careful observance and selective listening, and then uses it at a later time to hurt them.

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The Optimist Creed Promise Yourself

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Promise Yourself

The Optimist Creed

Written by Christian D. Larson

From the book Your Forces and How to Use Them

Promise yourself…

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

(Promise Yourself…)

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

(Promise Yourself…)

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

(Promise Yourself…)

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

(Promise Yourself…)

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

(Promise Yourself…)

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”

Christian D. Larson (1874 – 1954)  was an American “New Thought” leader, teacher, writer, and prolific author of metaphysical and “New Thought” books. Many of Larson’s books remain in print today, nearly 100 years after they were first published. Larson’s book, Your Forces and How to Use Them, was adopted as Optimist International’s creed in 1922 and his Promise Yourself poem is used as a fundamental principle of “The Secret.”

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Benefit of Difficult People

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“Regardless of how anyone treats you, you stand to benefit. While some people teach you who you do want to be, others teach you who you don’t want to be. And it’s the people who teach you who you don’t want to be that provide some of the most lasting and memorable lessons on social graces, human dignity, and the importance of acting with integrity.”  ~Kari Kampakis

 

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Validation and Encouragement for NPD Abuse Survivors

Narcissistic abuse victims and survivors desperately need validation for the experiences they have had that no one ever admits to or sees. This video gives you the comfort and validation you have been seeking but have not yet found in friends, family, psychotherapists, and most of all your narcissistic abuser.

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Accepting What You Cannot Change

When Acceptance Is The Only Choice

Article written by Randi G. Fine

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference. “ ~Serenity Prayer~

We all find ourselves overwhelmed at times by situations that we have no control over; situations that we cannot change no matter how hard we try or what we do.

We all have difficulty accepting situations that are not the way we wish they would be. This difficulty manifests itself in feelings of frustration, anger, jealousy and regrets. These negative feelings interfere with our day to day peace of mind. They prevent us from forgetting or forgiving that which is well beyond our control. They impact our ability to move forward.

Many things we experience in our day to day lives are beyond our control; the weather, natural disasters, traffic conditions, delays, illness, the economy, etc. These experiences may make us feel uncomfortable, we may not like them, but we grit our teeth, make our best effort to roll with the punches, and move forward. The reason we are able to do that is because we do not feel personally threatened by these situations. For the most part they do not trigger deep emotions in us.

When something in our lives threatens our security, our tendency is to cling tightly to control. Control is always rooted in fear and attached to an outcome we believe is best for us. We fear that if we relinquish control, it will result in an undesired outcome. We fear that this undesired outcome will unsettle a precariously balanced foundation.

The primary disadvantage of fear-based control is that it obstructs our emotional well-being. As long as we continue to exercise control over everything in our world, we will not be able to accept what comes our way and therefore cannot possibly live a peaceful existence.

The lines between what we can and cannot control may blur sometimes. For instance, if someone close to us is on a self-destructive path, is it realistic to believe that we can effectively change or control his or her behavior?

We can certainly try and probably should if we care about that person’s welfare, but we must accept that the ultimate outcome is reliant on that person’s own desire to change. We can change our response to that person’s behavior, our level of acceptance of it, and our attitude, but we must accept our powerlessness in changing another individual without their desire to do so. We can make the effort but we cannot be emotionally attached to the outcome.

Many of us get stuck when it comes to accepting a regretful or painful past. We focus a great deal of emotional energy wishing we could change our past, even though our logical minds know that is impossible to do; that it is beyond our control.

There are actions we can take and attitudes we can adopt to help us come to terms with what happened. We can apologize and take responsibility for anything we may have done in the past that we regret. We can extract meaning and learn from our past experiences and mistakes. What we cannot do is change it.

We can however change the present and positively impact the future. We can face the repercussions of our past and move forward in the present. But ultimately we must come to terms with our past and accept it, because not accepting what happened will cause a great deal of disharmony in our lives.

The good news is that there are several things we can control or change in our lives with the expectation of positive outcomes. We can control aspects of our lives related to self-love, self-esteem, the betterment of our health, the enrichment of our relationships, and the quality of our lives.

We can improve our lives by changing the way we use our personal time, changing our habits, changing our relationships and the nature of them, changing the direction of our lives, changing our environments, changing our goals and occupations, and changing our health consciousness.

Each of us has power within to change our choices, our opinions, our core beliefs and values, and our points of view. And if we desire we can effectively control or change any responses, reactions, expectations, attitudes, or moods that do not serve us well.

On the other hand, no amount of control can change the families we were born into, our innate talents, our physical tendencies, our genetic make-ups or our sexual preferences. Likewise, our death and the death of those we love are inevitable realities for all of us.

We can wrestle with our feelings, live in denial, lash out, or feel victimized by our lots in life, but we can never change them. We do, however, have two options. The first option is to accept the reality of what is. The second option is to be miserable with a reality we cannot accept.

Granted, it is extremely difficult and painful to accept what we do not like, what we wish we could change but cannot. Resignation is hard to come to terms with when control is completely out of our hands. But the bottom line is, our happiness depends on that acceptance.

Why not swim with the current instead of against it? Resistance builds blockages; blockages that create depression, sleep disturbances, anxiety, stress, and general un-wellness. Once we decide to go with the flow instead of against it our lives begin changing in spectacular ways.

The irony is this; when we stop trying to control everything in our lives we actually gain more control over them. Acceptance and allowance open us up to all the possibilities that exist in the Universe. Acceptance frees our mind, body, and spirit.

Acceptance is a choice we make to better our lives. It begins with realistic expectations about life itself; with the understanding that life is not always fair, not everyone will like or love us, no one is perfect, and everyone experiences adversity.

Acceptance comes with the realization that there is no true reality; that no two people share the same exact perceptions, that there are as many points of view as there are people. It is the realization that our point of view is not the only one that is right, logical or fair.

Acceptance involves the taming of our egos and the embracing of humility.  It comes with believing we are worthy of everything, but not entitled to anything other than our opinion.

Acceptance is the recognition that our souls chose to come here to learn specific lessons. It is the understanding that we are not cursed, we are not victims of life, and no one is punishing us.

Acceptance is about taking charge of the direction of our lives. It is about recognizing that we, not a supreme power, not our families, not our partners, not our government, are responsible for our own happiness and well-being.

As Lao Tzu said, “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”

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Trusting Lifes Timing Picture Quote

Inspirational Life Quote

Never doubt the timing of things. They may not happen exactly when and how you think they should, but they will always happen when and how they are supposed to.        ~Randi G Fine~

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Inner Beauty Picture Quote

Quote About Beauty

Once we understand that nothing is perfect and that beauty has no norm, we will no longer stand in judgment of ourselves and of others. With that understanding and acceptance comes great freedom. And in that acceptance and acknowledgment we can look at ourselves and others as beautiful, simply because the Universe made us that way.    ~Randi G. Fine~



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Self Love Quote

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Self-love requires loving every part of ourselves. It requires taking ownership of the child we once were; nurturing it, cherishing it, making peace with it, and then merging the fragmented parts of ourselves into one happy union. ~Randi G Fine~

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