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Story of Hope Love Destiny

If you like inspirational memoirs about the power of hope, or just want to read a candid expose of my previously misaligned life, FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny is the book for you!! It’s a page turner!!

Available in Paperback or as an E-Book

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This memoir written by a woman author tells a compelling, impactful true life story about hope and love, and how she found her destiny. An excellent book for women!



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Inspiring Authors Message

Author, Randi G. Fine 

Living Life to the Fullest

Inspirational Author’s Message

The most difficult people in our lives end up being our greatest teachers.   The hurdles they place before us and the challenges they present to us are only lessons that we must learn for our greater good.   Think of the oyster…without the irritating grain of sand there would be no pearl. ~ Randi G. Fine

We all experience times of joy and times of suffering as we move through our lives. Life is a breeze during the happy times; we get to sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. But we must ask ourselves how good joy would feel if we had no adversity to contrast it? The phrase, “nobody said life was easy,” was coined with good reason. The truth is, life is hard work…but the beauty of life is that it has many facets.  We are constantly challenged to learn and grow.  And as we rise to those challenges we become stronger, wiser and better human beings. The universe holds all the answers we will ever need. It’s all there for the taking if we watch, listen, and trust our intuition. I invite you to follow me on my journey as I explore the many paths to happiness, and the many avenues that will lead us to living life to the fullest. I wish you serenity and joy in your life. ~ Randi


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Change Yourself Change Humanity

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Heal the World

Saving the World

Written by Randi G. Fine

Be the change you wish to see in the world. ~Ghandi~

Many of us feel helpless when we hear about the inhumane atrocities that are occurring around the world. We have witnessed unfathomable cruelty – evil.  We live in terror of the possibility that this evil will soon pervade our own homelands.

We desperately pray to God to save us. We throw our hands up in despair asking, “Where is God when we need him the most?”

We hope that the people of the government we elected and put into power will take the reigns and fix the problems, and then we curse them when they fail us.

Time is of the essence. Too many innocent people are dying senseless deaths.  Each of us must stop passively wringing our hands in despair. We must assume our share of responsibility. We must tap into the power that lies within each of us – the power we have that will change the course of the world.  It all starts with you and I.

Each of our souls have come to this planet to learn and grow. Each of us carefully laid out chosen paths to follow before we arrived here.  As a human beings we may not remember why we came here and what we need to learn, but our souls do.

No one is cursed with their reality; no one is punished by it. God did not bring us here to make us suffer. We each came here of our own accord. We each create our own realities.

The hardest things we face in life, the dreaded themes that repeat over and over during our lifetimes, the problems that seem to follow us wherever we go, are the ones we came here to overcome.  Recognize these as indications of your soul’s purpose in this lifetime.

Only the bravest souls choose to come to Earth School to accelerate their growth. That means that each of us has the strength and power within to push past adversity. Each of us has the capacity to heal ourselves. And each of us carries the love and light of the God spirit within.

Life is hard, but we are not alone on our journeys. The loving spirit world made a pact with us before we came here to support us. They remain faithfully by our sides. They whisper guidance in our ears. They give us recognizable signposts along the way to assist us in finding the most direct path to all the answers we will ever need.

We may recognize these signs as coincidences, but they are not. There are no coincidences. They are synchronicities – unexplained phenomena that show us the most direct route toward the fulfillment of our mission. We need only awaken and recognize them.

When we move past the pain, fear and heartache we came here to overcome we are brought to love and light. This is the love and light that each of us must bring to the world. This is the love and light that will change the course of the world.

We can no longer distract ourselves from doing the work each of us needs to do. We have to stop complaining about others. We must stop complaining about circumstances and do what is within our own power to fix ourselves. That is all it takes. If each of us did the work on ourselves that we came here to do, the world would radiate with love and light; the light that will crowd out the darkness. Darkness cannot possibly exist where there is light.

We all wonder what we can do to fix the world; to overcome the darkness that is spreading like wildfire on our planet. Truth be told,  it is must easier to do than we might believe. We must each look within. We must each explore our own existence. We must ask ourselves how we can positively change that which is within our own grasp. That is all it takes. If each of us saved ourselves we could collectively save the world.

We can no longer rely on the people we elect to represent us. They are human beings just as we are, each with their own agendas. If these beings are overcome by pain and darkness, they cannot possibly bring light and love to the world. Until they each see the light, the problems the world faces, the problems that impact each and every one of us, will not be eradicated.

The same goes for God. God can only do so much. We are God’s hands and we have been given free will. It all comes down to us.

Smile at someone today. Share the love. Love is contagious.  Let each and every one of us begin the process of infecting our planet with love and light, right here, right now. We can do it. We must do it.

 

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Remembering September Eleventh

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Remember the day.

Pray for peace in our homeland.

Pray for the victims of September 11th and their families.

Stand in unity.

Declare…

“This will NEVER happen again!”

Peace and love to all,

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Near Death Experiences on A Fine Time for Healing

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Great Shows Coming

During the Month of October 2014 on

A Fine Time for Healing

NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCES

Several guests who have had Near Death Experiences will be on these shows, live, sharing the details of their intriguing experiences with you.  Check the show page for dates, times, and links as they are scheduled.

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Beautiful Songs Are Gifts From Heaven

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Beautiful Songs are Gifts From Heaven

Written by Randi G. Fine

“When will I know everything that I’m supposed to know?” ~ From the song Mazes and Puzzles

Eighteen years ago I received an unanticipated but welcomed gift from a Heavenly Source. I became a channel for the inspirational, healing words and music for several songs.

Ever since I can remember I have loved to sing, though I would definitely not classify myself as a singer. I also know how to accompany myself on the piano pretty well. But since I am not completely proficient at either, singing and playing piano has been a hobby for me at best.

Musically inclined, I did write a few songs in my youth. They were decent, considering my lack of life experience, but nothing I would consider sharing with others as an adult.

There came a time in my late thirties when all the pain of my past seemed to bubble up to the surface. Seeking to understand my life I began delving deeply into something that had always peaked my interest but I knew little about – spirituality.  What I read and learned about the spiritual world opened my eyes to an exciting, new reality.

My soul began awakening. I found this connection to the unseen spiritual world to be one of great comfort. So I began “listening” for guidance from entities beyond the physical world whom I had come to trust.

One day while sitting at the piano I started playing what seemed to be the intro to a song – a song I had never heard. These notes resonated deeply with me but I did not understand why. Days later the words, “I’m never lonely and I’m not alone with the love that’s beyond, the love that’s beyond myself” came to me. I wrote them down, and by the end of the night the words to an entire song had come to me.

The next day I sat at the piano hoping the perfect music would follow those inspirational words. To my amazement it did.  And the musical intro I had played days ago went perfectly with the words I had been given. That day a song called “Love Beyond” was born.

Over the next few months several more songs were given to me. The more I listened, the more words I was given. The words poured out at the oddest times; mostly when I was distracted. I remember running out of the shower, more than a few times, dripping wet to get a pen and a piece of paper so I could jot down the words that came flooding in.  The perfect music always followed.

Before I knew it I had enough music to make an album. The cassette player I recorded the songs on did not do them justice, so I went to a studio to have them professionally recorded. I sang the words and played the music on every recording for demo purposes, never intending to be the artist who would ultimately perform them.

The purpose for the music was unclear. I had to believe that the same source that sent the songs to me would show me what to do with them. I made a few attempts to send the tapes out to professionals in the music business, but no direction ever materialized so I put the project aside.

For the following eighteen years, my sister Michele, a very talented pianist, kept the songs alive. She loved them, believed in them, and played them over and over on her piano. Michele lived in a different state, so she would call me and play her beautiful arrangements of the songs over the telephone. I had mostly given up but my sister never did.

Michele recently asked her friend, a world renowned psychic medium, if the songs could have been given to me with no ultimate purpose. Her friend replied, “The songs are meant to be heard.” So my dear, devoted sister took a cassette from the original, professional recording and had the music converted to CD format.

With the songs revived and more easily listened to by others, I have begun sharing them on my website and creating pictorial videos with them for Youtube. I hope you will listen to these songs, focusing on the beautiful music and inspirational messages they convey. Please share them with others – “they are meant to be heard.”

If the purpose for these songs is somehow revealed to you, if you know a professional whose voice can do them justice and who has the wherewithal to share them with the masses, or even if these songs stir something deep inside of you, please let me know. Until then I will continue to be the messenger I was chosen to be. I will continue to trust and wait.

“Mazes and Puzzles” – http://youtu.be/I176v8OWEcc

“Seasons of Plenty” – http://youtu.be/y2tWLxEqeNI

“Blossom, Grow, and Soar” – http://youtu.be/WcEPvswvZJs

“Key to Life” – http://youtu.be/boa1VeqgzVU

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We Are All Here to Learn

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Life Packaging

The Gift Inside

by Madisyn Taylor Daily OM

We are all spiritual beings living in a human body even though our packaging seems different, we are very much the same.

We have all had the experience of encountering someone whose life seems so completely different from ours that we can almost imagine we have nothing in common. However, if we go deeper into observing, we will see that we all have the same things going on in our lives. It is as if our different lives are in essence the same gift, wrapped in an infinite variety of containers, wrapping paper, ribbons, and bows. Everybody experiences loss, grief, happiness, excitement, anger, and fear. Everyone can have money issues of one kind or another, and everyone struggles with difficult choices.

Our lives show up differently for each one of us because we each learn in different ways. One person may need to learn the value of money by having too little of it, while another may need to learn by having more than enough. We each learn about work and love, with experiences that are tailored to our particular perspective. Even as it appears that some people have it easy while others are in a continual state of struggle, the truth is that we are all learning, and it is very difficult to tell, when looking only at the exterior of a person, what’s going on inside.

This is one of the many things that can be so valuable about cultivating relationships with people from all walks of life. As we get to know those who seem so different from us, we get to really see how much of life’s challenges and joys are universal. We begin to look beyond the packaging of skin color, clothing preferences, and socioeconomic differences, hairstyles, and the cars we drive to the heart of the human experience. It is important to honor and value the differences in our packaging, but it is just as important to honor the gift of life inside each one of us, and the fact that, no matter how different the packaging, the gift inside is the same.

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Seasons of Plenty A Song About the Beauty of Friendship

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Seasons of Plenty

A Song About the Beauty of Friendship

Voice, Music and Lyrics by Randi Fine

Be my friend so gentle and humble, be my friend for all of my life.

Only you have seen the sorrow, only you have seen the strife.

Sorrow in the springtime, ushers in a weary soul.

Take my hand in fullness. Together we will go.

Seasons of Plenty fall upon your door, Seasons of Plenty do I want more?

Gaze upon me with your eyes.

A laughing gentle breeze,

A sunrise to my lonely soul,

Bringing me ease.

How simple is friendship, offered to everyone,

Tied up in lovely bows, wrapped in fun.

Those who are lonely, searching for a friend,

Knowing how empty feels til the bitter end.

Reach into your heart, find a word that’s there.

Pull it out and gaze at it, find the word is care.

Seasons of Plenty fall upon your door, Seasons of Plenty do I want more?

Gaze upon me with your eyes.

A laughing gentle breeze,

A sunrise to my lonely soul,

Bringing me ease.

A sunrise to my lonely soul,

Bringing me ease.

© 1996 Randi Fine All Rights Reserved

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Inspirational Life Song The Key to Life

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The Key to Life

An Inspirational Song

Voice, Music and Lyrics by Randi G. Fine

   Inspiration is abounding all around you,

just allow yourself the calm to let it in.

 When you open up your eyes then you will see it,

when you open up your heart then you’ll begin.

 The pulse of life is beating loud so feel it.

Take time to hear the sound when raindrops fall.

 Appreciate the love that’s all around you,

and love the things about you most of all.

 All the busy times rushed through are never noticed,

and the quiet ones so precious and so few.

 Every moment I exist I want to grow more,

so I approach each day as if my life was new.

 All around me people speak but rarely listen.

It’s simplicity that makes a happy soul.

 See beauty in the most unusual places.

Empty your life and you will feel so full.

 Why is beauty so misunderstood,

and love overshadowed by fear?

 I wish we’d let all the hostility go,

it’s so light when the dark disappears.

 Why so much hatred, resentment, and rage?

It’s so easy to feel peace and calm.

 Discover the sunrise in a new way today.

Let the brilliance of life keep you warm.

                               Copyright Randi Fine 1996  All rights reserved     

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Unconditionally Loved Children Blossom Grow Soar

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Many of us, myself included, have suffered through difficult childhoods.  It is with greater clarity that we are able to evaluate our past from an adult perspective.  Though we may be cognizant of the root of our pain, our childhood experiences were tightly woven into the cloth that made us who we are today; they are imbedded in the fibers of our being.  But those of us that have done the painstaking work know that healing is very possible.  We can reweave our own cloth.

In 1996, while working through my own childhood issues I wrote a song called, Blossom, Grow, and Soar.  On behalf of children everywhere and forevermore, I would like to share these words.

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Blossom, Grow, and Soar

Voice, Music and Lyrics by Randi G. Fine

I might be small today, but what I have to say may touch you in a way you never felt before.

You gave my life to me, I love you completely. I trust with certainty that you will love me too.

It’s so safe to know that you love me, and I can blossom, grow, and soar.   Just give me a happy, strong  foundation, and the wilted child will exist no more.

Respect me like your peers.  I’m there with open ears, a child who always hears and believes in what you say.

I need you always near.  You calm my deepest fears.  Good parents always hear the things children can’t say.

It’s so safe to know that you love me, and I can blossom, grow, and soar.  Just give me a happy, strong foundation, and the wilted child will exist no more.

Sweet words are inspiring, harsh words are deafening.  This child needs pampering, give all the love you have.

Be gentle everyday, love me in every way.  Please listen what I say and you’ll know what I need.

It’s so safe to know that you love me, and I can blossom, grow, and soar.  Just give me a happy, strong foundation, and the wilted child will exist no more.

Be there with open arms, shield me from pain and harm.  Just keep me safe and warm, I count on you for this.

I might be small in size, but just look in my eyes and you will realize  the depth I have inside.

It’s so safe to know that you love me, and I can blossom, grow, and soar.  Just give me a happy, strong foundation, and the wilted child will exist no more.

copyright 1996 Randi Fine All Rights Reserved

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Read other parenting quotes, songs, and articles:

Ten Things Every Parent Should Know (Article)
Raising Self Reliant Children (Article)
Unconditional Love Parenting (Article)
Unborn Baby Song Little Child (Song)
Can Your Children Be Honest (Article)
Preparing Children for Life (Article)
New Baby Quote
Happy, Healthy Children Picture Quote
Good Parenting Picture Quote
Parents Love Builds Childs Future Picture Quote
 

Read more about the Inner Child:

Silent Plea of Inner Child Picture Quote
Healing the Child Within
Reparenting the Wounded Inner Child
Pursuing Optimal Emotional Wellness
Self Respect Personal Bill of Rights
Healing Inner Child Picture Quote
 

 Podcast Shows About Parenting

Tough Love
Given Your Children the Successful Edge in Life
 
 
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Unborn Baby Song and Lyrics

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Little Child

A Song For An Unborn Baby

Voice, Music, and Lyrics by Randi Fine

 Little child I’ve dreamed of you coming to this world.

A part of me I’ve left reserved for a darling boy or girl.

It’s never even mattered just who and what you are,

for you and I have lived before on a distant star.

A place removed from time and space, the heavens some may say.

A pact we made in distant days to meet again one day.

As the time approaches, your life force beating strong,

anticipation fills me up, I’ve waited for so long.

Little child, my little child, what will you teach to us;

compassion, hope, and friendship—faith, belief, and trust?

Little child, my little child a gift from way up high,

I’ll give you all the best I have, then watch you as you take your wings and fly.

I wish for you your happiness, though clouds will come some days.

Keep looking up, believe in love, and things will go the way

 that you and I had planned they would when we danced upon a star.

Remember this, walk lightly now, and cherish who you are.

Little child, my little child, what will you teach to us;

compassion, hope, and friendship—faith, belief, and trust?

Little child, my little child a gift from way up high,

I’ll give you all the best I have, then watch you as you take your wings and fly.

© 1996 Randi Fine All Rights Reserved

Read other parenting quotes, poems, and articles:

Ten Things Every Parent Should Know (Article)
Raising Self Reliant Children (Article)
Unconditional Love Parenting (Article)
Unconditionally Loved Children Blossom Grow Soar (Article and Song)
Can Your Children Be Honest (Article)
Preparing Children for Life (Article)
New Baby Quote
Happy, Healthy Children Picture Quote
Good Parenting Picture Quote
Parents Love Builds Childs Future Picture Quote
 

Podcast Shows About Parenting

Tough Love
Given Your Children the Successful Edge in Life

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The Narcissistic Mothers Accomplice

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Narcissistic Mothers and Enabling Fathers

When Children Don’t Stand a Chance

Article Written by Randi G. Fine

Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the right reasons. They are not nurturers. They have no maternal instincts or genuine love to give. To the narcissistic mother, children represent a captive narcissistic supply. Because a young child’s very survival is in her hands she expects to be the number one object of his or her complete adoration. She dismisses the fact that children have needs, anticipating that the constant flow of narcissistic supply she will receive in return will be the perfect trade off.

The narcissistic mother does not imagine that her children will be separate entities with needs of their own. But children do have individual needs and those needs can be quite demanding for any mother. They are especially overwhelming for a narcissistic mother who now finds she is giving way more than she is receiving. That is not what she bargained for.

The narcissistic mother becomes resentful of her children and their neediness. This resentment intensifies her already natural tendency toward abusive behavior.  Someone is going to have to pay for her sorry situation. Her innocent children are her possessions, therefore she can do with them as she pleases. What pleases her is using them as  scapegoats for everything that makes her feel unhappy or frustrated.

Any attempt made by the children to question her, defend their selves, or express their needs is met with terrifying narcissistic rage. Over time, with the same results occurring every time they challenge her in any way, the children learn that they must play by her rules. They are bullied into silence by fear.

Where is the father while all this is going on? What is he doing about the abuse he watches his children suffer at the hands of their mother? Logic tells us, under the circumstances, that the children must rely on their father for their emotional well being. Someone surely has to love them, protect them and advocate for them. A father, the protector of the family, would certainly not stand by and allow his children to suffer abuse.

That is what logic tells us but it rarely works that way when NPD is involved. A strong man with boundaries and great self-esteem would have walked away from this crazy woman a long time ago and hopefully taken his children with him.

But a strong man with healthy boundaries and great self-esteem would not be with this kind of woman in the first place. If he did somehow get wooed by her cunning, manipulative ways and false persona (as others so easily do), and then made the mistake of marrying her, he certainly would not have remained in the marriage for very long.

Narcissists prey on the weak; those they believe they can bully and manipulate. Men who marry narcissistic women and stay have masochistic tendencies along with either low self-esteem, a pattern of being abused in their lives, are looking to fill the shoes of love lost or a mother they did not have, are codependent, or have a personality disorder just as she does. There is always a deficiency of some sort.

A man who has it together would not subject himself to the dehumanization, emasculation, objectification, or unpredictable rage of a narcissistic woman. He would never accept the role of perpetual victim; someone who believes he is undeserving, and guilty for whatever his NPD wife chooses to blame him for.

A man who wants his marriage to a narcissistic wife to survive must worship the ground she walks on; tell her everything she wants to hear. He must tell her how beautiful she is, how perfect she is, how superior she is, and how right she is about whatever point of view she takes. He must deny the importance of his own wishes and needs in order to please her.

Narcissistic wives control their husbands like puppeteers. They use anger, and withdrawal of love or sex to keep them in line. They can make the lives of these men a living hell if they want to, and then make the men believe they deserve every bit of it. They keep their husbands on their toes with confusion. These submissive husbands become reliant on their wives to tell them what is true and what is false, what is right and what is wrong, what they are allowed to do and what is forbidden.

By the time children come into the picture it has long been established that the husband’s survival in the relationship depends on him enabling his wife’s abuse.

Men who marry narcissistic women and remain with them do not make for strong father material. They become spineless jellyfish who will do anything to keep the peace with their wives, even if it means they have to sacrifice the well-being of their children. The wives always comes first; these fathers make that very clear to their children.

The father also becomes an accomplice to the mother’s abuse tactics. She bullies him into doing her dirty work so she can forever remain the innocent in the abuse. If he doles out the abuse for her she can deny having anything to do with it. She is Teflon – nothing ever sticks to her.

The behavior of their father does not make sense to his children. They wonder, “How can Dad be so loyal to someone who treats him so poorly? Why doesn’t Daddy ever stand up to her?” Helplessly witnessing their father’s deprecation and emasculation is very damaging to the children’s emotional well-being, just as the direct narcissistic abuse of their mother is.

Children brought up in a family such as this stand no chance of emotionally healthy development. They have no emotional safety. Their lives are completely unstable. They constantly live in a chaotic and unpredictable environment. These children can never rely on any emotional consistency; therefore live in a constant state of fear. They are forced to take on roles that are inappropriate for their age in an effort to establish some sense of calm.

No one steps in to help these children because no one on the outside recognizes what is going on in the home. Narcissistic mothers present a picture perfect family to the outside world. Everyone on the outside looking in sees their mother and father as wonderful people. Those outside the immediate family never see what goes on behind closed doors.

The narcissistic mother demands total loyalty. It is reinforced to the children over and over by their mother to never to discuss the private issues of their family. Any semblance of love doled out by her is immediately withdrawn whenever the children step one toe over the line. They would not dare shame their mother, so instead must internalize all their feelings.

Children with narcissistic mothers and enabling fathers are emotionally abandoned and abused from a very early age on. They have no one to advocate for them. They are set up for a lifetime of misery; insecurity, lack of self-esteem, depression, anxiety, fear, anger issues, boundary issues, codependency, and painful adult relationships. Sometimes the chemical balance of their brains is even altered, making the abuse nearly impossible to overcome in later years without counseling, therapy, or medication.

Children brought up in an environment such as this grow up without healthy coping or problem solving skills. They have to build protective walls inside for their emotional survival. The most basic of life’s challenges are met with confusion, fear, withdrawal, anger, or substance abuse. Their lives become disasters.

It is difficult for adult children who grew up in these types of homes to recognize the root of their problems. They have led very painful lives and often do not understand why. They have a very hard time seeing the abuse for what it was and still may be. They hear about children who are brutally beaten and feel guilty about comparing their pain to these victims. Emotional abuse seems to pale in comparison to physical abuse, in the minds of many. But that is definitely not the case.

Unlike physical abuse, narcissistic abuse is subtle. These abusers deliberately keep their victims confused about the reality of what is going on, so the victims can never seem to pinpoint the source of their pain. Narcissists play mind games. They deny everything they have ever done. Children (adult) can never confront their parents and get an admission, validation, or apology.

It is twice as frustrating when the other parent takes the exact same stance and defends the NPD parent, or when the therapist we go to or our friends blame us for creating the problem in the first place. That makes us feel crazy; it makes us second guess the validity and gravity of our pain.

That is why as adult children of narcissistic parents, we must stick together. We must support each other because no one else will understand. And most importantly we must get professional help. We cannot recover without it.

Note:
When seeking out a professional to help you be sure to screen the person thoroughly before seeing them. Make sure they are very experienced in dealing with narcissistic abuse. Otherwise you are wasting your time. They may even make the problem worse. I am a Life Issues Counselor and NPD abuse is one of my specialties. I can help you overcome this problem and move on with your life. All counseling sessions with me are over the telephone.  Your phone number is never revealed to me. All calls are private and confidential, and it does not matter where you live.
If you would like to know more about my counseling services, please visit me at Clarity.fm/randi-g-fine.

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