Pursuing Optimal Emotional Wellness
Article written by Randi G. Fine, Author
Self-improvement advice on virtually any topic that interests us, written from endless points of views, is right at our fingertips. Most of the articles I write are of this genre, often with a New Age slant. Websites that I publish articles on, such as SelfGrowth.com and Curezone.com, are entirely devoted to this topic. A simple Google search will lead us to prayers, meditations, affirmations, and mantras that are aimed at helping us through troubling times. With all that knowledge readily available to us in our own homes, wouldn’t it seem as if everyone should be in optimal emotional health?
Much of the self-improvement information we read and I write about is based on some sort of mind over matter technique or theory. Some are logical and straight forward; some require faith and an open mind. What works for one person may not work for another. There are a large variety of approaches that can guide us toward optimal emotional wellness.
Many people get frustrated with mind over matter self therapy because of the emphasis placed on tapping into our own energy and healing from within. We all have the ability to do that, but many of us feel blocked when we try, and then we wonder why none of these methods seem to work. Do not get me wrong; I would not write those types of articles if I did not believe in what I am talking about. I am certain that we are what we think and that we can change our lives by changing our thoughts. But it is not always so easy to accomplish.
Unless a miracle occurs and changes us, some issues are so deep seated that the years of clutter must be cleared out before we can attempt to gain power over our thoughts. Patterns established in childhood are hard-wired into our brain. It is very difficult to psyche ourselves out of thinking the way we have been conditioned to think for so long without the deliberate “rewiring” of our minds. Sometimes we may need a little help and that is perfectly fine. It does not represent weakness or mental illness as some people believe; quite the opposite. It takes courage, determination, and inner strength to choose emotional wellness at any cost.
The greatest gift I ever gave myself was submitting to professional therapy. When I began I did not know if it would work or how it would work. All I knew was that I could not bear the emotional pain much longer. Certainly other self-help methods had temporarily eased my suffering, but the pain never truly went away. I reached a point in my life where I wanted all that nonsense out of my head once and for all. Through professional therapy I was able to accomplish that.
Once the cobwebs cleared, my mind was free to embrace and focus on mind over matter techniques to promote my spiritual and emotional growth. My point is if you find that you are frustrated with trying to help yourself and feeling defeated because nothing is working, do the most loving thing you can do for yourself. Break the vicious cycle of pain. Get help.